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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for nearly a year now, we were really happy, but now he doesn't like me talking to other males and I have lost all my male mates because of him. Also he turns violent when he doesn't get sex and he really wants it. What can I do to tell him I am not happy with this. I love him so much and I don't want to be without him.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (24 August 2007):
 I understand you may not want to be without him, but I feel you should get rid of him. If he is that jealous when you talk to other guys, that tells everyone a lot about his personality. Plus, if he is violent towards you in anyway, this is more of a bad sign.
You should tell him, perhapps while in the company of your friends (if you feel you may need them for protection). You have to tell him that you are unhappy with the way things are, and his attitude must change if you are to be together. If he cannot change his ways, then it is clear that you should not be with him. I'm not saying moulding a person is a good thing, but jealous and violent behaviour is not something that should simply be accepted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): He's acting like a jealous monster. Get rid. You might say that you love him (i don't know how you can) and that you don't want to be without him but is that due to habit rather than real actual feelings? What i wonder is that when you were going through a happy stage in your relationship did he know that you had male friends or not? He isn't being fair by making you lose all your male mates because he's worried that you are going to cheat on him with them. Plus demanding sex isn't fair either. You can do better than him. Dump him and move on before he wrecks your life even more than he already has done.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (24 August 2007):
 Not wanting you to talk to guys is normal... Just about all bf's myself included get annoyed/jealus by that.
But as far as getting violent he just has a temper and needs to calm down. If I were you I wouldnt be with someone who hit on me, tell himt hat and he might stop.
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