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writes:I dont know wat to do.. i am dating, well i dnt kno if he is my bf. but i asked him to add me to his facebook and he never did. and i was snooping on his facebook like looking at this friends. and i saw this one girl's profile. well there is like alot of pics of them together with other friends and like 2 of them together. i dnt kno wat to do. how should i confront him about this. or should i just stop talking to him?? we have been dating for about 3 months and just like last week we kinda become bf/gf. idk wat to do or wat to tell him.. please any advice?? thx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): Umm.. I posted the question.. I'm just doing an update..
He has logged in. He changed his profile pic. And this is the 2nd time I request him. The 1st time I did he said that he didn't log on his facebook anymore then he changed his pic and I got mad and asked him why hadn't he accepted me. But he ddnt give me a good answer. He kinda just avoided the question. Then this time I requested him and he hasn't accepted me. I havnt seen him so that's why I havnt asked him why he hasn't added me. And then I dnt kno how to confront him bout the pics wit the other girl.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (31 May 2008):
Hmm this is a rather confusing situation isnt it!
I admit its odd that he didnt accept your friend request on facebook. But is it possible that he hasnt been on his facebook since you sent the request? Does his page list any activity after you sent the request?
I def do not think ignoring him is a good option. You need to be open and hoenst with him and hope he has the decency to do the same in return for you.
Next time you see him, just casually say 'hey i added you on facebook, did you add me back yet?' and see what he says.
I wouldnt go accusing him of anythign with that girl just yet. Casually just ask him about his photos, ask him about photos with other people as well, such as with guy friends, to make it look less obvious, then ask him about the photos with the girl. Just act like your curious about his friends and life. or you could even say 'hey one of your pics was a really good one of you, you know the one of you and that girl at the beach....' then wait for him to explain who she is. If he openly says who she is, without you having to specifically ask then i think hes pretty innocent. however if you have DRAG info out of him then that sounds a bit suss in my opinion.
Oh and as for the bf thing and not knowing where you stand. Well once again you need to talk to him to put your mind at rest. Just say how you feel, say you are confused about where you stand and that you would liek to be bf and gf.
Do this all face to face. That way you can judge his body language etc and it will make it harder for him to lie.
Hope this has helped! :)
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