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writes:dear cupid, i really like my next door neighbour and i have done for nearly a year now, last sunday i spoke to him for the first time on msn but he didnt know it was me and we were speaking for 4 hours and we swapped numbers then when he found out that i lived next door to him he deleted me. It can't be because of the age difference because im 16 and he is 21 thats not such a big gap and i had already told him how old i was and he still asked me for my number. i don't know what to do whether to just leave him alone or what? please help.
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reader, bexii_16 +, writes (25 April 2008):
bexii_16 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he never ansered back and he been online a few times i think the best thing i can do i move on, its goin be hard becus i like him alot but ive just got look for someone who like me for who i am, i wanna say a really big thank you for all your comments they really did help and im taking some of ur advice and movin on, god knows how lol xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): It does seem like maybe the age difference played a role here. 5 years doesn't seem bad if you are 20 and he is 25.. But you are just 16. Its illegal in many places. And he is your neighbor, have you lived there along time? He probably seen you since you where really small and still thinks of you as that little girl. Maybe that's why he stopped talking to you. If its recent, then he doesn't want drama so close to his house. Imagine having to see the person you are dating everyday? If you fight, not having time to get better. And worst of all if it doesn't work out, how akward will it be to see him everyday after that? My advice is to just leave it alone. And find someone around the block atleast..lol.. Good luck
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reader, bexii_16 +, writes (24 April 2008):
bexii_16 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe hasn't commented back yet but I hope he is just scared. I still have his number but I'm not going to text him because I dont know if he wants me to now. I will update you as soon as he replies. Thanks very much for all the comments, they are much appreciated
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Glad your keepin us all up to date bexii :)
Anon, 21 and 16 is ok really, i mean 5 years difference.. bexii is of age to me, just dont rush in to havin sex just yet, there's lots of time for that so slowly does it, finish school tho, thats a must.
Get to know each other a whole lot more and see how it goes, you never know 1 step at a time.
I hope the best for you bexii and if you can, keep us up to date, thanks.
Ps, i hope you get the answer from him :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): My guess is that he's a bit ashamed & embarassed to have been interested in a 16 year old girl, him being an adult at 21. You think it's not a big age difference, but I assume 16 years old is still an illegal minor in high school & he probably doesn't want anyone knowing that he would be interested in a young girl.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (23 April 2008):
 I believe the correct phrase we're looking for is
"Don't shit where you eat"
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): I'm sorry to have to say it, but I reckon this bloke has seen you and already decided that he doesn't fancy you, which is why he deleted you. Either that or he considers you to be a bit too close to home for comfort.
It's no big loss. Imagine all the upset if you had a relationship and it all went tits-up. Best to leave him well alone I'd say.
There are more fish in the sea, so bait your hooks and get fishing!
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reader, bexii_16 +, writes (23 April 2008):
bexii_16 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thnx for the reply i have asked him why hes deleted me, i dont care how bad the answer is i just want to know and then maybe i can move on
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (23 April 2008):
It could be that he's abit or alot in shock, well it can happen. You can always send him an email askin how he is, what was it he didnt like somethin.
You dont need or even have to say your sorry in anyway.
How do you know he deleted you?
Give him abit of time, may help.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (23 April 2008):
 My heart goes out to you, you like this guy and until he knew who you were, he seemed to like you.
It maybe the age thing, it maybe because you live so close and he does not want his buisness to be so public, he may not want his family to know who he dates etc.
It maybe because chatting on line and texting is fantasy to some extent, you get to know the real person without the physical attraction and as he realised he knew you he just did not fancy you. he like the virtual you but has not got the physical attraction to the reality.
It is his loss as on line he got to know the real you.
All I can say is that if you feel confident enough to ask him what the problem is now he knows who you are, then go for it, but you maynot like the answer.
Or just put it down to experience and his bad taste and move on.
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