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30-35,
anonymous
writes:problem. me and my boyfriend are both 19. Before we moved in we lived ages away from each other and I became less interested in him and we broke up, that night I slept with someone. He phoned me the next day asking if we could get back together and i told him what i had done. He forgave me. I never felt so low and physically sick about something i had done. Then we were great.Basically I moved in with my boyfriend, my boyfriend became my fiance, I loved him so much. Then the stress of bills hit and I am the first to admit we were too young and too fast for what we did. We argued and had a bit of a bad time. Six weeks to the day that he proposed he got really drunk (so im told) and slept with someone else. Although i didn't find out until a week later when my friend told me. We had to live together for two months and now four months on are still in loads of contact, i am so confused. He begs me day and night to forgive him, he went through a rough stage and told me he wanted to die. I didnt know what to do. Now he seems like he is back on track and we are both back livin with parents and although he accepts that I am being single etc he still cries and asks for me back, I love him so much and i know he loves me. I am so confused. please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for that, it helps to put things in perspective, One more question, did you ever come to trust her again, Im scared of not believing another word he says after he lied to me for over a week
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): honestly I have to tell you, i used to be a straight laced you cheat its over kind of guy i was always faithful and never did anything even questionable, after I got married I soon found that love is the greatest thing to ever have, and as a truck driver my wife did have a few lonely spells and did stray a few times, granted it was wrong but I was gone for 3 weeks at a time. I eventually forgave her being as it was only sex and moments of weakness, and I truly love her with all my heart and she does me. basically it comes down to one thing hun, if you truly love him and he truly loves you why not give him a second chance. If he is going to cheat again he will do it quickly, and try to spend more time together with out moving in together, wait awhile to avoid issues with finances. get yourselves set in life jobs, vehicles, you know the necessities. and if he was truly drunk it might have been a true moment of unclarity where he thought it was you but wasnt, also dont always believe what your friends tell you, but you can use it to your advantage. I hope I helped some, good luck and god speed.
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