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writes:well. . . for like a good few months this guy i know really liked me. we used to make out like every weekend but i didnt really want anything serious so it never really went in that direction. after a few months just making out, he asked me out. i was kind of uncertain at the time and truned him down thinks were weird for like 2 weeks, then we went back to just making out again. then another few weeks of that he asked me out again. i was certain this time that i wanted a relationship with him as he really did treat me like an angel. we had been together for a while then one night he went out drinking with a few mates and made out with one of my mates. at the time she didnt know that me and him were an item, but they were both really drunk at the time. the next couple of days he eventually told me what had happend and i finished it. the one guy i thought wouldnt ever hurt me did. i was devastated. he kept asking me to take him back because it was just a drunken mistake and he wanted to try again with me. we did say at the start it was not going to be serious. i told him that i couldnt because of what he did even if it was a mistake. it has been a month or two since this happend and the other nite we made out for the first time in ages. i really did want him so badly we didnt take it any further as he does have respect for my bounderies. he walked me home at about half two in the morning. everything was fine. he phoned me in the morning telling me he didnt make it to work which was kind of my fault. but he did add that he wasnt complaining at the time. i do forgive him to a point. but i do want to talk to him about what happend in the past if we are goin to take anythign further realationship wise! but we havent really properly spoken about if it was just one night thing or if he still really wants me back. how can i let him know i have forgiven him and want to give him a another chance without makeing it too easy for him as he still needs to realise that i am not a push over and it needs to be him doing all the chaseing to get me back? what if he doesnt want me back? please help me x
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reader, rachy-baby-helps +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Well from what I can see you have already shown him you are not a push over, he has already been chasing you for the past few months. If this has been the case then it is obvious he wants you back.What happened in the past is just that, the past! Bringing it up again will just cause arguments and upset. Leave what is in the past, in the past.He has obviously been trying to get you back from the moment it happened! That should show you something. If this drunken mistake had meant anything he wouldn't be trying so hard to get you back. His respect for your boundaries is very good and also shows how much he loves you.My advice is to just arrange to meet a friends, talk about the good times you had, don't mention the drunken mistake, and things will take off from there.Good Luck :-)
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