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He broke up with me but he keeps calling me.

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Question - (9 May 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 22 October 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My ex boyfriend broke up with me but he cant tell me why and every excuse he give me dont add up to what the problem was between us... what could the reason be why he still calls me all the time telling me how happy he is with his new girl and now i am dating someone else and i am very happy but i just dont understand why he keeps calling me and arguing with me if he is so happy?...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010):

Wow this is very complex, I'm sure it's confused you a lot. Sorry to hear that no one else contributed to an answer.

It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Sometimes when people insist they are happy etc over and over, it's almost as though they are trying to convince themselves that yet are happy by saying it out loud so repetitively. Basically, it seems like he believes he SHOULD be happy, but isn't actually.

It seems like there's something missing in his life, and maybe he keeps calling you to see if YOU are the missing piece he needs.

Regardless, I think he is confused, indecisive and on denial. And that he's messin with you, even though that most likely is not his intention. It's like he's loading his dirty laundry on to you as he feels like you're safe to talk to.

I'd recommend to be upfront. He may be depressed if he calls to argue AKA pick a fight. Try not to focus too much time on this as I don't think you could benefit from him at all.

But, how do you feel when he calls? I think that's the most important part to the story.

All the best babe

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