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writes:I have been separated for 1 yr and half..out of a 22 yrs of married I had a horrible ending to my marriage......well here comes along a guy who I was in love with 20+years ago my first love who now was also separated. God I was in love with him back in the day so when he became separated I thought it was destiny hoping it was ....the reason I stopped dating this man was because he couldnt commit so I stopped seeing him ..well here he is divorced and asking me out 28 yrs later..lol....Now I did end up going I felt like a teenager all over again ...we went to a movie and talked had a good time.......well now the next day I find out he had said to a close relative of mine that he had a great time but wanted nothing serious.....Am I in the right to run away.....its deja vu all over again with this guy if hes saying that hes feeling negative again and I cant get hurt dont think my heart can take another blow
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 March 2012):
 Also, from your post I have the impression that you sort of think that he's a knight in white armor. He's the average joe.
I think you're very hurt for the time being, and perhaps should avoid dating for a while. You could have unrealistic expectations. Yes, it is correct to expect that a good man will come your way. It is not correct to think that the very first guy will be wonderful. I'm afraid you need to be able to kiss a few frogs before you find Mr. Right.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 March 2012):
I feel that the key here is "wanted nothing serious". After 28 years, you're basically strangers and have to get to know what the other is like. Maybe he didn't like the new you in this date. That would not make him a bad guy. Now, if he had "nothing serious" in mind since before the date, then I would say you need to stay away from him, unless you don't want "anything serious" either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): No, he CAN commit and he has in the past...it's just that he doesn't want to commit to you back then and now. Yes you will get hurt if you want more than sex. There are many relationship oriented men out there who will want a relationship with you. No sense getting involved with a man who is always looking over your shoulder for the next best thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): It is not a very pleasant thing to know, I agree.
But do you want to get serious if you just had bad divorce. I would give him a chance, what do you have to loose?
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