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writes:My boyfriend loves me a lot, we have been dating 3 months. He wants to have sex. Despite everything i'm still not ready to have sex with him.I don't know what the problem is. My question is what if I have sex with him and he's not the one? Reply to this Question
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (17 October 2010):
 I agree with CindyCares, you may not be ready for sex. If you need more time, tell him and explain why. Do not use the explanation you give here though. Say you want to know him as a person more before you get to the physical part. And, just so you know, CindyCares is right about first lovers. They are rarely ever "the one". If this will be your first time, which I assuming it is, don't rush it. Let it come naturally, and don't expect it to phenomenal. I rushed mine, and I wish I hadn't.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 The problem is not that you may find out he is not the one- not very often it happens that your first lover is also the last one.
The problem is that you are not ready for sex. If he loves you he should not pressure you.
3 months is not a long time, maybe you want to take your time, getting to know him better and feeling comfortable with him. There is nothing wrong with that.
If you want to wait, then wait, and if he loves you he'll wait with you.
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