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writes:Is it true we all have doubts about each other at the beginning of the relationship? Could that break or build further the relationship? I've had this awkward conversation (can't call it a fight, because it wasn't) with my boyfriend - (we've been together for 16 months now) about some insecurities I've had lately. I told him that maybe I'm not good enough for him and he could always find something better. I thought about this because he's never had a relationship before and I fear that he might want to try something else. He said that, in the beginning of our relationship, yeah, he thought about that, he thought that he could do better and he could find a better one. Now he told me that there is no better one, after spending all this time with me, that I make him happy and he's got no reason to look elsewhere. Thing is, I've had the same issue in the beginning myself - I had the urge to dump him a few times, because I've always compared him with my ex's and my male friends, I thought they were better and all I could get was him. So I know EXACTLY what he's been thinking when he said "I could have better". Any thoughts ? Thank you
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (9 January 2011):
FluffyPie is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't want to break up with him because of something I FEEL. I don't want to break up with him. At all... I don't want to feed my insecurities, I just want to make things clear in my head about certain behaviors in a relationship, since I haven't got the chance with the previous relationships (they didn't last long).
"Knowing that he is the one will give you more patience to deal with the rough times when they come along." - can you be more specific, please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): In my experience I have found that most of the guys that I wasn't too sure about but went ahead and stayed with them usually let me down. Then I always think back at the fact that I always had a gut feeling that he wasn't the one.
Knowing that he is the one will give you more patience to deal with the rough times when they come along.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (9 January 2011):
FluffyPie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, it's not like I'm wasting my time or anything. I love him and he loves me, we talk about marriage and kids. Now I'm more convinced than ever that he's the one for me. He confessed that I'm the one and only for him. All that makes me a bit skeptical is that he's never been with a girl before and that he might want to try something else. I told him that and he reassured me that this won't happen, because he prefers stability and he doesn't want to take the risk to lose what he's got at the moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Dont waste your time with him if u feel your settling.I know u have been together for a while now so it seems stupid to break up but u guys will eventually.I would start secretly looking for someone better just incase he is out their.Then break up with him after i find that guy. If u dont find anyone better then u can stay with him.
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