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writes: I'm still dealing with a lot of issues that have affected or bothered me throughout my life: namely weight and body image, self-esteem, and stuff similar to those things...I ahve been seeing a counselor about it, and it's helped, but sometimes I feel like I don't wnat to tell my bf about things I talk to my counselor about...there has been one time he has asked, and I told him the truth that I talk to her about what's bothering me from the past or present and I didn't feel bad about telling him, but sometimes I feel like I would like to tell him more details, but i feel like it would be too much..I don't want him to feel overwhelmed about what I say to him or feel weirded out by me or as if I dumped all these issues I ahve about myself on his lap and I don't wnat to do that..is there any way to find a happy medium? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (24 April 2006):
 Well I think you know your partner better than I ever could reading off a screen and I think you know deep down how much he can take. Go with your instincts not your insecurity on that one. Opening up is one of those things where there is no right or wrong answers because it is a highly personal thing to do.
Obviously he is taking an interest which does him credit. Maybe take it a little at a time, after a session if he asks tell him about one thing you talked about, leave it at that and then the next time tell him two things or another different thing. That way you are not giving it him all at once so he isnt overwhelmed by it all. Also, after you have had these talks maybe you could schedule in a relaxing event for you both to do so the pressure isnt too great. Hope that helps and take care.
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