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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have worked with this girl for a short while now, and have developed a major crush on her for more than a month now. I've never dated a coworker simply because I was never interested in one previously, (and for the record, my company does not have a policy prohibiting this). We do not work in the same area, and as it is a human services type job, it can be difficult to decode things because the concern is obviously the people being assisted aside from lunch breaks, walking through the building, and time before/after work. Basically, I've come to the conclusion that my interest in her is so strong that I am going to ask her if she would like to hang out some time for the sake of saying I tried, if worse comes to worse. However, I have observed a few things in our conversations that I wonder about, and if they can be seen as any type of hint.When I have had time to talk with her, I feel that I've made some very strong yet subtle attempts at showing that I am interested in her, through questions about what she likes to do, where she is from, her zodiac sign, and even some interests which we happen to share. I would like to believe that she knows I am interested, though I stop short of true "flirting/innuendo" because I do not want to make her possibly uncomfortable, and keep things professional at work. With this being said, I have noticed her laugh quite hard, seemingly different than the norm for her when I've told her some jokes/funny situations I've heard of. I asked her how her weekend was and if she did anything fun, and she specifically mentioned that it was quiet and she just spent time with a couple of her girlfriends. Aside from what I have mentioned, I make a point of saying hello to her and smiling at her every chance I get, and she has not mentioned any boyfriend, seemed put off by my interest, yet is still hard to read because (understandably) we both have bigger concerns in serving the people which we do at work. If she sees me driving out of the parking lot, she waves at me, and if not busy with a client at work will always say hello to me. So, nothing here seems to scream obvious signs of interest to me, but I feel like I have seen subtle items of interest here. Does anyone have thoughts on this? Thank you.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (9 January 2013):
I dont know how good of a job this is, but I would advise against it. There is a saying - "Dont fish out of the company pond." If things turn sour, it will run over into your work life, and one of you will have to go.
IMO no date is worth losing a job over. Look elsewhere.
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reader, Muscle and Sinew +, writes (9 January 2013):
 If you really like this girl, ask her out. Girls like a confident (not cocky) guy. A dinner and movie would be great. Maybe this will give we a chance to see you outside of work. Follow your instincts, if your attracted to her, and she goes out of her way to say hi or hang out, I'm sure there is some type of attraction. Whats the worse that can happen?! Hope that helps!!
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