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writes:I have been seeing my boyfriend for a few years now but for the last month I have been feeling bored with him.....When we kiss I don't feel any passion, and sex is pretty boring... I don't get any pleasure from it....Is it normal to feel like this? Or have I fallen out of love with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 June 2017):
 Maybe try and talk to him and tell him you are not feeling it any more. Maybe you have both just fell in to a bad routine, you could try add some spice in to your relationship. Ask him to try new things in the bedroom and go on date nights.
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reader, Billy Bathgate  +, writes (3 June 2017):
Relationships sometimes run their course. This may be one of them. Take a good look at the relationship. If you think it's worth saving you can talk it over with him and try to find things that will revive your interest. If that's what you really want to do. If you decide that it's not worth saving tell him so and the two of you can move on with your lives.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 June 2017):
 Are you sure you WERE in love with him in the first place?
Sounds like you feel unfulfilled. If sex is boring and kisses are not passionate or pleasurable WHAT are you doing to change it? You waiting for HIM to read your mind and change things up? OR are you willing to tell him that the sex needs some heat & spice?
It could be that partly the relationship has fallen into a familiar slump where things no longer incline but decline.
Was the sex ALWAYS boring or is that new? And what brought on the change? (if you know) If it was always boring then, well, it was only a matter of time before you would feel disappointed. If it wasn't always boring I'd look into when and why it has changed.
I wouldn't WAIT for him to figure it out, but take charge and talk then follow up by action. Maybe have some fun date nights, try adding a few toys? Talk fantasies and then live the ones out you BOTH think you will feel comfortable with.
Doing nothing will fix nothing.
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