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*yle007
writes:This is not my problem, more of a survey if anything.In my past, whenever I liked someone and flirted, made other advances, asked them out on dates, and basically been upfront about my being attracted to them, it has a chance of me becoming romantically involved. I say "chance" because not every attempt works, but if anything is going to work, its this.Why?Because for me, when I meet a woman, find her attractive, keep it to myself,nurture the illusion into a fantasy, and then finally when one day I cannot stand it I confess to her how I feel, it NEVER works.And I think that not only does the former approach work better, but its a result of confident, genuine intention, and the latter may be unworkable because deep in my mind I know that the other person does not feel the same way, or it won't work out for whatever reason. Why else would anyone want to hide their feelings?Its funny, when I am attracted to a woman beyond a simple fleeting thought, I end up doing one or the other.So, my question is, has a crush ever worked for you? Is it easier for a man than a woman? I want to know your story.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (18 August 2011):
Kyle007 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the response. I am more trying to get a feel as I may want to write an article about this some time. I see mostly postings of people asking what they should do about their crushes, no one saying they have been successful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): Maybe b/c the woman you may have a crush on is either married or involved with someone already. A woman can usually tell when a guy has a crush on them--nonverbal/body language cues. If they are the shy type--they will avoid eye contact or seem nervous. If they are mutually attracted and not too shy--they will respond immediately. Basically, they will want to be around you. Has a crush ever worked? Yes, I married my crush--It was mutual. He made the first move by asking me out. We've been married for 19 years. :) Go for it! Good luck! Just go slowly--Coffee is a good start.
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