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writes:Me and my boyfriend are still together and we almost 2years together. Love him because I can feel that he loves me so much i feel so secure that he will be faithful to me. But when the time passes by I find myself falling with my friend whom I known for almost 10 years.He was even my high school crush then but i never think that my feeling for him will be stronger as it is right now. I can't explain but every time we are together I am so happy it seems that I am different person when I'm with him. But I cannot feel that he is serious to our situation he just always say that he is happy when I'm there. He is not sure if he loves me too. So i think I should be with my boyfriend and stay with him since I know and I can feel that he truly loves me. But I still don't understand the feeling that i am in with my friend. Every time I see him I feel so happy and can't explain the feeling I am with..Would you prefer security than happiness?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): i wish you every happiness with Mr number 1. Cherish him and let him know you appreciate his love and care. Many girls would consider you very fortunate to have such a caring man. My best wishes to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're right. I was just confused that's why. I am so lucky to have Mr. 1 so why would I let him go? I wont dump him for a man who's just fooling around. But still I would consider him as a friend since we've been friend for almost 10 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): you may not be right for either guy.
1. Current guy. You know he cares. You feel he will be faithful. I think he sounds reliable. And it sounds like he loves you. You want faithfulness in a partner.
But apparently it's ok with you, for you to see your former friend. That's a double standard. You like this guy because he loves you.
But do you really love this guy? He will eventually suss out if YOU do not love him. Possible recipe for disaster.
2. Guy you knew long time ago, you still feel something for him. But he's 'not sure if he loves you'??? Translation: he does not love you. He stil hopes though that you may be prepared to fool around with him, with no commitment from him. And he's a cad. He knows you are in a relationship. And you are not loyal to Mr 1, because you still have contact with Mr 2. With Mr 2 you have no hope of happiness
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