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writes:My boyfriend and i have sex quite a bit, and it's usually at night because that's when we're with each other. I'm a night owl, and he stays up late, but not as late as i do. Oftentimes, he'll orgasm and be very tired and just want to crash afterwards. Once in a while i can get him up and going again, but not as often as I'd like. Sex energizes me; after we're done I want it again right away! Is it normal that he wants to sleep and i want to go again? Any tips on keeping him up and awake?
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reader, jujunaty  +, writes (25 January 2010):
 we guys are usualy flopd after ejaculation. if the girls go on, the pleasure is now too sensitive and irritating (to be frank) so just try keeping him awake,cos after about 3 to 4 minutes we can go on again. and guess what? our second time lasts about 2 to 3 times longer than the first.
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reader, SeXylOvE12 +, writes (23 January 2010):
SeXylOvE12 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Faraday - I would love it if you personal messaged them to me!
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reader, Faraday  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 I agree totally: toys and fingers can never replace the intimacy of a real person.I'm glad that you can get him to pleasure you first, but now you have to work on afters! It is possible for a man to stay awake and repeat, and that is where the "afterplay" I mentioned comes in.I do have one or two techniques for you and your bf to try, but I doubt if the Mods will allow it in this open forum.
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reader, SeXylOvE12 +, writes (20 January 2010):
SeXylOvE12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFaraday - That's true. And he usually does make me orgasm at least once beforehand, but there is just something about intercourse that's so much better than fingering or oral. It's the closeness, intimacy, and the feeling of him in me that i love.
But thank you everyone for the feedback! It's nice to know that it is hormonal and that he isn't choosing sleep over sex on purpose! ha
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reader, Faraday +, writes (19 January 2010):
It's true; nature predisposes us men to collapse and slumber after all that hard work!
Seriously, it is hormonal, but why not have him indulge in "afterplay" by cuddling, kissing and caressing as you come down fron your orgasm - it's nice, and should harden him for round 2!
Also, who said you have to have more orgasms AFTER penetration? I like to make sure that my partner has had several before; it takes the pressure off me and ensures that she has a good time.
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reader, Digiman  +, writes (18 January 2010):
 You said it CaringGuy!: "If he continues to sleep after that, then make sure he works really hard before you give him an orgasm."
I always make sure I give my honey at least one orgasm before I allow myself to...for some(most?) women it energizes them, so I found that her second, third orgasms get better and better!
Try, gently, to make sure he takes care of you once, first, before you give him his orgasm. I've found that 20 minutes of snuggling/talking/playing with her after my orgasm gives me enough time to recover and then go on for more.
Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 January 2010):
When a man ejaculates, it releases a hormone that can send him to sleep if he's left to lie down for too long. Sit him up, keep him talking and massage the base of his penis (this will keep the blood there). If he continues to sleep after that, then make sure he works really hard before you give him an orgasm.
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