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*uziel56
writes:I like this guy who is very much a ladies man! he has never admitted he likes me but gets with me sometimes and texts me quite a lot, I know he talks to other girls so it isn't just me but I know all he wants is sex because thats what he tells me however in person. He will be sweet and caring and treat me like im the only girl in the world. He talks dirty to me but has never sais anything to imply he actually wants to be with me. If anyone brings up anything to do with me and him he flat out denys everything, I don't know what to do!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 These are not mixed signals! These are clear, inequivocable signals that he is not that into you, except for casual, uncomplicated,low maintenance sex.
If you want to see his being occasionally sweet and nice to you in person as a sign of a real interest, please remember that :
- you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. If you want somebody to do something that's good for you and not for them, first you have to rub them the right way.
- what people DO counts much more than what people say. His actions show that he is not someone who cares about you or really likes you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): I would also say that with players it's not usually even really about sex- it's more about control, game playing and feeling powerful that they can manipulate you. Sex is secondary to that. They get off on manipulating people and hurting them.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Do whatever you want to do.. but this man is looking for a quick easy screw... If you have sex with him, he'll probably never talk to you again. He's no liar, he likes sex with any woman who is willing and available.. He ain't looking for a friend, wife or girlfriend.Don't even expect dinner or a movie, this is a case of "take of your clothes and lets do the dirty".
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Drop him. He's using you, TOLD you he's using you, yet you still fall for his lines. He acts sweet and caring because he wants something from you, it doesn't mean he actually is sweet and caring. It's only about sex to him, nothing else.
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reader, Odds +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Players know exactly what to say to make girls swoon. Mixed signals are the single best way of getting a girl hot and bothered, so on the one hand he tells you the truth (he only wants sex), and on the other he hints that he likes you (he doesn't).
It's easy to fool someone who *wants* to believe something. You want to believe he thinks you're special, so you read hints into everything he does.
He's going to sleep with you and leave as soon as he gets bored. If you're alright with that, great; if not, move on.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 I'm sorry suziel56, but I don't like the sound of this. You might like to hear hearts and flowers but you said it yourself: 'mixed signals'. He seems inconsistent. I'll bet he's very handsome as well. Sure you like him but at the same time you seem quite insecure about who he is. If he is a friend keep it that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): Well you pretty much know that he is a player and he only wants sex. If you don't want that then move on and find someone else. Whatever he is saying and doing it is with one motivation in mind as he has told you.
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