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writes:I've been talking to this guy on the internet for about a month now. We get along fine and flirt a lot, we have everything in common. We met once already and he asked me to a movie this weekend. I said yes. The day before we were supposed to go he said he already went and saw it, I said ok and haven't heard form him for 2 days.We used to talk every night. He hasn't been with anyone for a LONG while and we had talked about it, he said maybe he got too comfortable being alone and was scared to be with someone again. After talking it all out he said he wanted to give us a shot.....He may want to give us a shot but he sure isn't giving me a chance. Is this a lost cause?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, I did not sleep with him when I met him. Neither one of us do that, or so he said.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 If you have his cell phone number then send him a text asking how he is or like rhythmandblues said, send him a friendly email. Sounds to me he's taken cold feet. Did you sleep with him when you met?
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (24 May 2009):
 He might have freaked out about going on a second date. Give him some space. I'd drop him an email if I didn't hear from him in a week, just to say hi. If you don't hear back from him after that, then I would definitely say it's a lost cause.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): It sounds like he is dating around if he already went to the movie and saw it and canceled with you. That is kind of rude, there are other movies to see besides that one.
I don't think two days is a long time not to talk to someone, but you have to realize people you meet on line are talking to other people too, so you can't get overly concerned and anxious about it going somewhere, it happens, he may have met someone or decided he doesn't want to date. Who knows, who cares, next! And if he calls and you want to go out, then go, but if he calls and cancels again then I wouldn't give him any more of your time or attention.
It is a myth that you have to have a lot in common with someone to date them. It helps if you have a common interest or two, but you can be very different and have a great relationship. Who wants to date themselves? You want someone who can add something new to your life as long as it isn't something you object to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): probably, but really he is not that into you.... go find someone who is....
i would drop one email to say hi- how are you ? are you ok ? and then if no response walk away from a fool.
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