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writes:I love her since last 1 year but she hates me she doesnt even want to befriend me what should i do?i fell in love wid her when she had a bf. her bf betrayed her and i proposed her immediately. but was taken aback another friend of mine also proposed her. she was irritated by him. she liked me but tried to repel me softly. one day she told me she had another bf who consoled her in times of her trauma of betrayal. she used to be very friendly wid me but still repelled me. one fine day she told me that she accepted her bf's proposal of getting married. i was shocked. she didnt even give me time to prove myself better. i took help of another friend to keep me informed about her relationship. i became more and more desparate and then she stopped talking to me. gradually she started hating me. and now she doesnt even want to be friends with me. her bf is a rich guy and pampers her quite generously. i dunno when they'll get married or whether they'll get married or not but i m nowhere in her life. but i really love her and want to get back to win her heart. i believe in not giving up.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 At some point, you are going to have to fact facts and give up your pursuit of this woman. She has accepted someone else's proposal. It's not giving up if the person has also told you that they hate you, it's probably the only thing to do, I'm afraid. Why on earth are you so obsessed with someone who has no feelings for you? You do deserve to be loved in return! Find someone who will love you back. This sounds like a contest to "Win" something, and there isn't a prize at the end of it because she doesn't love you and you seem to want to "possess" her in spite of her own feelings. The whole situation is unhealthy to pursue any longer. It's time to move on, my friend. Everyone experiences unrequited love at some point, it's hard not to have those feelings returned. Just imagine how wonderful it's going to be when your heart's desire loves you back! It's time to let this go. The love of your life is still out there waiting for you, and she's not this woman. Good Luck Dear. I wish you happiness.
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reader, growing +, writes (5 May 2008):
 you said that you don't believe in giving up.but ,don't you think her heart is not a game that you want to win at every cost.well,i can get a feel that you are going through but i would suggest you to let her fly with her preference.its her life ,so let her decide for herself because here its not that she is dating someone,she is planning to get married to him.so things have already gone far to propose her.i dont understand why you are making your life miserable by still thinking of her.you should keep yourself occupied with different activites,work or may be friends and wait for someone who too will love you the way you want. oneside love always hurt. samajh aaya???
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