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female
age
30-35,
*Charliix
writes:Need some serious advise!.. I'm gay and ive been dating this lovely girl for about 6 months now.. We're both 18 and the first few months of our relationship were fantastic and we had fun and amazing sex.. We broke up for a month last year, and now we've been back together for about 2-3 months..we haven't done anything physical or sexual in 2 months. I ask her whats going on and she just says shes not in the mood. Ever!.. I could understand that, if the other affection signs weren't disappearing now.she won't even kiss me probably anymore.. Just a peck on the lips, never a make out session.. I ask her why, and she says she doesnt really like kissing atm and would rather cuddle.. She also says that if we make out it'll lead to sex, and she doesnt want that.. She even uses this excuse when we're out and about and I ask for a kiss.. And going back to the cuddling, she says she wants to cuddle instead of kiss, when I ask for one she finds something else for us to do, like go for a drive or something.. Anything that prevents us being alone at my house, in my bedroom..ive asked her many times if shes lost her attraction towards me and she says no.. But its getting to the point where I can't even give her a hug because she complains about me being in her personal space!I love her so much, and she says she does too, but this lack of affection is really getting me down, and making me feel worthless. Im scared of losing her, but I want to know the truth, and I don't feel that shes being completly honest with me..what does all this mean?? Is she really going off me? How do I get her to tell me the truth
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2012): the reason for our previous breakup was because of similar problems that are occuring now..
Things just weren't right between us last time, and we got to the point where we at a dead end.. and sex was an issue aswell
I also kissed another girl a few days before we broke up, but she didn't know that until we got back together.. and had slept together a few times. When we initially got back together we were great and really had a good time together in the bedroom.. and now, since the new year, its stopped.
I really don't have any clue.. It seems like she's lot interest in me completely, physically and emotionally :(
She seems to get bored when i start talking about something i'm interested in.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (25 January 2012):
 I'd bet she is telling you the truth, women tend to not be "in the Mood" a lot of the time. It's not personal it's just a homone thing.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (25 January 2012):
 When you two went on a "break" what happened that lead up to the break up?
Did one of you cheat? Did she get pregnant? What happened? Obviously, whatever it is you two need to deal with it. There is another reason for her going off sex, then her "mood".
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 January 2012):
When you two went on a "break" what happened that lead up to the break up?
Did one of you cheat? Did she get pregnant? What happened? Obviously, whatever it is you two need to deal with it. There is another reason for her going off sex, then her "mood".
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (25 January 2012):
 This is a really tough one to answer because no one will know what she's thinking apart from her...Has something bad happened to her? It seems like she's scared of doing something maybe?Has she decided she's not gay?Has she dont something with a boy and now feels weird being with you?Has she cheated on you, and has a guilty conscience?These are all things you need to bear in mind.Short of just coming out and asking her, I don't know what to advise.Talk to her properly and say you want to know what's going on with her. Tell her if she isn't honest, then you'll leave.don't be made a mug out of good luck x
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