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writes:My ex boyfried dumped me about a month ago, I don't know why, and has been texting me recently whilst I've been sticking to NC (Mod note: No Contact). I replied to the first few just incase he had changed his mind, but after realizing he was just being friendly I ignored the last few. I'm trying to move on, and it's constantly jerking my chain whenever he texts me.So on Thursday night I snapped and gave him an ultimatum - "either we get back together and we work through our problems or we split up for good and go our seperate ways and never speak again, I cannot be your friend and pretend I don't have feelings for you while you're probably out riding with other girls, so you either let me move on or we get back on track. Think long and hard about what you want and make a decision please."He text me back in about 10 seconds and said "What the fuck? Well in that case yeah, it's best I don't speak to you."And that was it.I've heard nothing since.The way I saw it, it's not fair that you dump someone yet continue to text them when you dont want to get back with them, so I felt like I had to do that for my own sanity and plus now I know how he really feels about me coz if he wanted to get back with me he would have put up a fight when I put my foot down, or perhaps not, because he's so stubborn. I just wanted a clean break up, I hate being messed about.Do you guys think I did the right thing?It's not like me to be like that... I'd just had enough of being his safety net :(My friends seem to think that once I've disappeared from his life doing NC he'll come crawling back in a few weeks when he realizes he doesn't have me anymore.....
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 You were more matured and you did the right thing to stop his nonsense.
I am of the opinion that when reality sinks in , he will try to contact you again.
He replied in haste without thinking and probably committed a mistake here.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 You did the absolutele right thing. I was glad to read about what you did...good on you for sticking up for yourself and not letting him mess with you.
He dumped you and gave you no reason why, he has no business keeping in contact if, as you say, he doesn't want to work on things and get back together.
I think it took a lot of strenght and emotional maturity on your part to do what you did, well done.
Right now, you've given him an ultimatum...it will do one of two things. He will either have a serious think about things and will want to talk about it. Or he will disappear. Either way you'll know what he's about.
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reader, anysecondnow  +, writes (15 March 2010):
Yes, you made the right decision. He just isn't that into you and you are obviously still into him. I think tuning him out is the best thing you can do for yourself. If he comes crawling back, it's just cause you are easy prey. You really can't win in this situation and you would be smart to stick to your guns and move on.
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