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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (20 March 2012):
 It's a bad idea. Think of it, he is an ex for a reason...a reason why you should stay away from each other and move on. If this FWB thing starts, your reason becomes invalid. This type of relationship will only salvage what little respect and love you have left for each other. Why not get back together officially and commit properly? It's really not logical to be honest.
FWB only allows your ex to abuse you and disrespect you or vice versa. And it will only extend the agony you suffer caused by the break-up.
Believe me, I have been there too. Good thing it came to a point where I realized it was wrong to still keep on seeing my ex just for being FWB. The moment it stopped, i started moving on.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (20 March 2012):
FWB are not ideal at the best of times because more often than not, one person usually starts growing feelings for the other and then it gets messy. I personal think it would be a bad idea for you as you have already had feelings for him since he is your ex, and those feelings don't automatically switch off and go away.
Was it a mutual split or did he decide to end it and suggest the FWB? If that is the case then I would suggest you don't even go there because you will get seriously hurt.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 March 2012):
 I did it once... it worked out ok for me.. but I was much older and we just kind of fell into it... we had once a week (on thursday) visits... it lasted a while and just kind of faded from life as I found a new boyfriend....
I don't recommend it if you have any feelings for this ex as you will hold on to hope that he he may change his mind...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 March 2012):
 It's a GREAT idea for him.... and a CRAPPY idea for you....
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (20 March 2012):
 Read this thread and all the answers, it might help you see the bigger picture.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-asked-to-be-my-fwb-i-turned6.html
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reader, sparty the spartan +, writes (20 March 2012):
 as long as yall keep things strictly sexual with no romance... no passion...no emotional attachment it should be fine i'll be the first to say that FWB are cool but exs arent so cool but they are an ex for a reason but if yall keep it no more then sex and both agree that its just for fun then for hells sake do it to it!!! just be careful love is a battle field!!! and you should always wanna win the war
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2012): Bad. FWBs in general end up a mess with emotions so seeing your Ex would be a minefield and can only end in tears eventually.
My opnion is you need to cut ties so you can both move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2012): I think it's a bad idea. There are feelings there for someone if not both. It usually turns out bad and prolongs the pain. I personally wouldn't be a FWB with an ex boyfriend. Just my opinion though.
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