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writes:Thinking about it, I guess I was waiting for the right person to do it and the right time. Being me now, at this time, I'm realizing that you just have to go for it if you find someone who wants to be with you.... A little history, I knew I was gay since my puberty, but starting having bf in my late 20's. Now I'm a little nervous when we get almost there, he's been patient so far but I haven't told him about my virginity. I'm sure he wants to penetrate me, but should I tell him is my first time? He's 40 and with experience, me being 34, would you guys freak out knowing I let no one inside me? or would you feel 'priviliged'? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (4 May 2009):
 taking someones innocence is ludicrously arousing (bit of a fantasy of mine). i would tell him but only if you trust him which i'm assuming you do.
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reader, mystifiedgirl +, writes (2 May 2009):
Hi there,
Well I think it's a lovely gift and I completely agree with Gina. Talk to him so that your first time is as relaxed and special as it can be for the both of you.
All the best and good luck.
MG X
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reader, NightLad  +, writes (2 May 2009):
 Hi there,
Before you have sex with him I believe it is important that you tell him that you are a virgin. If he truly cares for you he will not “freak out.” Let him know your history so that he will appetite that you trust him enough to be your first.
Remember, many gay guys simply aren’t into anal. The fact that you are a backdoor virgin isn’t as shocking as you might think! Don’t fall for the stereotypes.
If/when you are ready to do anal, read up on it first. I suggest “The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex” by Stephen E. Goldstone.
I hope this helps.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (2 May 2009):
 I would discuss this with him because you want your first time to be special and not fraught with anxiety, if he knows this is your first time he will be gentle with you and you can tell him when you feel it is a little bit uncomfortable and he will make you more comfortable, it is all about communication and you are best to talk this over with him before embarking on having your first sexual encounter.
If i were your partner i would feel privileged at getting someone who has kept precious something that has not been giving away to just anybody, he won't freak out quite the reverse i am sure he will be honoured.
Good Luck.
Gina
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