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anonymous
writes:Ok, so I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and we both love each other more than anything. We do everything for each other. We're both virgins, and recently, we decided to have sex. But when we tried, he didn't really know what to do / where to go in.. and whenever he tried, it hurt me too much, so we had to stop. We tried again a few weeks later but the same thing happened.I don't know what we're doing wrong.. Anyone been through the same? Any tips on what to do, or anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh ok, thank youu :) that's really helpful :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): no lube is designed to be used with condoms...your perfectly fine..it doesnt increase chance of breaking...and within the 2 yrs ive been having sex i have never had a condom break and i use lube with my bf
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, ive always been scared of using lube with a condom though, i mean wont it make it more likely to break? :S
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reader, Morpheus  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Your first time i remember mine. Heres a few tips
*use a lubricated condom
*if that does not work use lube directly.
*use a condom or birthcontrol please play it safe
*you get on top of him and control everything.
*if you dont want it to hurt make sure he pops your cherry
(have something handy to clean all the blood)
*make sure hes hard and that you are very wet try to touch yourself or make him perform oral sex to you.
be very careful i encourage sex but only safe sex
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Hello,
Wait until you are 16 and then just simply lay nude together in bed with him on top. Things have a habit of slipping into place. Don't let it be "the night", just be natural and enjoy eachother naked. Make sure he wears a CONDOM! You may bleed, you may be sore but there is no rush. Good luck Hannah xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionaw thanks:)
actually he's 18 and i'm about to turn 16 this week :)
but thanks though
i appreciate the response!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): ok well firstly the two of u need to be heaps relaxed ie, he needs to b really hard and u need to be really really wet, if u arent wet enough get some lube and make sure he has a condom on coz that makes the whole thing ALOT easier for first time.
Easiest way to do it is for u to be on top that way he doesnt have to worry about where to go in or how far coz u control the whole thing. U have to guide him in using ur hand. when i say u on top he lies on his bak and u straddle him...easy.
it may take a few goes over a few weeks b4 it stops hurting u but once u both feel comfortable try diff positions.
LOTS OF FOREPLAY makes it easy so kissing stoking feeling
now i know u 2 have ben together for 3 yrs but ur both underage...just keep that in mind so if u get pregnant things wont b too great.
goodluck
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