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*hamrockgrl
writes:How bad will first time anal sex hurt? Also, what position is best the first time? This will be my first time for nething so I want it to be perfect!
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reader, shamrockgrl +, writes (25 February 2009):
shamrockgrl is verified as being by the original poster of the question A couple of things. I will be 16 in just a few months and am ready for this. It's something I want to do....I am NOT just doing it just for my bf!!!!
Also, there may be a few older people here that don't understand how things have changed. I personally know several other girls my age who have had anal sex with their guys. I wouldn't say its common, but its not uncommon either. I just wanted to get some advice on this site from others who have tried it.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 I was going to answer this but then I noticed your age. Worry about your education for now and ask about anal sex when you are old enough.
Don't get pushed into anything and when the time is right make sure he wears a condom!
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reader, J-LOVE +, writes (24 February 2009):
it hurts so bad that i cried. it is very painful. it may even rip. your too young anyway think about school and other non-sexual things. no one can tell you whats the best position for you because you may like what i don't. your trying to start off to young.
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reader, LauraM +, writes (24 February 2009):
 It WILL hurt the first time, and probably the first few times. But it does get better, both the longer he is in you and the more times you do it. I also hate to scare you, but my first time hurt a lot....I kinda screamed at the very beginning. But it's tolerable if he goes slowly.You MUST be very relaxed to have anal. Doggy is a good position because it allows you to relax the muscles back there. But if it's your first time for anything, you might want to consider missionary with your legs pulled up and apart. That way you can see each others faces and communicated better.Go slow. Use lube. It's a very intimate act. I really enjoy it now, but it took a few times b4 I got into it. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): Don't even consider it!! - Your anus wasn't designed for sex and at your age I wouldn't even go there!! - Tell your guy to go find a man if he wants to have anal sex!!!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (24 February 2009):
 I hate to scare you, but I have never heard of anyone having painLESS anal sex for the first time. The anus generally does not want to accomodate a penis moving in and out over and over. The muscle is forced open, and that general feeling is usually not pleasant.
The pressure created internally can feel really good, though, but it might take a while until you even notice that above the discomfort.
Even though you are very young, I would suggest having vaginal intercourse first. Then, while you're having sex, he can stimulate and relax your anus with his finger.
As far as a good first anal sex position, I think doggy might be a little more relaxing. Just relax, breath deep, use a condom and lots of lube, and by all means STOP if it hurts too much! Your first time will hurt, but don't think that it has to. If it feels bad then STOP! It could be a sign of something worse going on.
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