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writes:Me and my girlfriend have decided we are ready to go beyond kissing. We are both virgins though she did have oral with a previous boyfriend. It doesn't bother me, but perhaps adds to my anxiety a little. Any first time tips? How should I initiate it? I may not have been her first, but I'd like to be her best. How can I make it most pleasurable for her? Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2013):
Introducing a romantic element is a key to enjoying first time sex. Dim the lights hand have romantic music is to set the mood and facilitate intimacy. Appropriate music can influence our body’s electrical conductivity, pulse rate, blood pressure and circulation, which are all components of sexual excitement and pleasure. The flow of the music, and even its lyrics, can help you feel more connected to your partner during your first experience. Choose a place where you feel safe and comfortable, a bedroom may be the best place. Start when you feel ready. Be romantic, cuddle, kiss softly, and whisper sweet things.
When you're planning to have sex, an hour or two spent cuddling and kissing, gently touching each other in a loving way, is a good way to relax and get ready. Now begin fully clothed.
Take your time to undress and admire naked body. Look into the eyes of your partner intently. Slowly undress your partner while touching. Kiss every time you take off article of clothing to reassure your partner you are doing it gently and slowly and to set the mood. After undressing your partner, slowly lead him or her to the bed and lie down for a few minutes whilst caressing the body.
You might want to think about starting it off with a nice massage. What is important is your feeling for each other. Focus on making it a great experience for each other. Start slowly. Be aware that the objective of a massage is to relax your partner. To start with, use gentle movements that barely touch the body so your loved one will get goose bumps and be ready for unforgettable feelings that still await. The basic guideline for a massage is touch and it is therefore important that you touch your partner all the time. This means that you try to maintain permanent contact with fluids and movements while you explore the body of your partner, which will also increase the level of intimacy. If your not already naked you could for instance, take off your clothing while you give a massage and slide your genitals over the partner’s back.
Be playful. Relax, loosen up and have fun with your first time. Play around with each others bodies and various body parts. Tickle each other, if you want. Just make sure you laugh a lot. Engage in prolonged foreplay. Foreplay is a very important step to great sex. Explore each others entire bodies, kissing all around the face, neck, back, everywhere. everything should be really slowed down and passionate. breathing heavy when you are kissing the neck Slowly caress each other. Focus in on the sensations. You may want to incorporate some massage techniques such as "light touching" (using your fingers as though they were spider legs) or "sliding" (long strokes that float over your partner's body). Play with your lover's hair—head and body hair—pull it gently. Outline the other's ear with a fingertip while kissing. Your hands may knead your partner's buttocks or stroke the crease between them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2013): All you need to know for your first time is relax, and enjoy it, its meant to be fun :) the only thing I could say is lots of foreplay, don't rush into it because if your not into it enough it'll be horrible, just take your time and again enjoy it.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (7 August 2013):
Dear OP,
Don't add pressure onto the situation by wanting to be "her best" right away - it's okay if the first time is full of nervousness and a little awkward. The best I can recommend is that you process "gradually".. maybe not going "all the way" the first time. I mean, there's petting, giving each other massages, there's oral sex.. you don't have to have "penetration sex" yet. Just see if you can go further, little by little, and let her set the pace if you're not sure what she likes. And by all means, if you ever start to have sex, then use condoms. You don't want to risk a pregnancy and you can get pregnant even from first time sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2013): Why don't you ask her? You are missing the most fun part of it. You guys should have fun exploring one another. Don't rush to penetration. After enough touching and watching and talking, you'll get the idea of how how to get her aroused and how to show her a good time in bed. The key is patience.
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