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writes:My husband has just left me after a 10 year marriage. he's being really nasty and won't give me a penny towards our 3 children. I don't know what to do now because the last 5 years I've been claiming Income Support. As far as the government is concerned my husband and I have been separated for 5 years. I know it's bad, but what can i say he made me claim it. Anyway how do I get myself out of this mess now? I want to go to a solicitor to make him pay money every week etc...... but can't. Do I say the truth that we've just separated? Will the government find out? Or do I go and say we've been separated for 5 years but want to get money of him now? Won't they then make him pay everything he was meant to pay the past 5 years? I'm in BIG sh*t here. I know I deserve it, but my kids don't. Please help me how do I get out of this mess?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): The problem is I had to make out I had no idea where he was. Actually I'm surprised we didn't get caught because he works here in the UK and pays his taxes, but just uses different addresses. Sh*t I've been begging for years now to say we got back together. I hated living this way because I've been living on egg shells. At least now he's REALLY gone, I'm safe. But only if I keep my mouth shut. Which means he never has to support the kids and he can do as he pleases. The money I'm getting for Income Support just isn't enough. I'm behind on bills. I know this probably serves me right (KARMA) but it's the kids who are paying too. I can't say he was helping me before because I would of have to have told them that and now I'll get in trouble if I say that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): You could talk to a lawyer and tell them everything - they have to keep it confidential. Or you could tell your husband that unless he starts regularly paying you child support, you'll go through the official channels and he may have to backpay for the 5 years you were "separated". Or you could officially say he was supporting the children but recently stopped.
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