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writes:Okay so my boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot here lately and we have been through a lot. I love my boyfriend so much but I feel like im getting tired of him and the fighting, we tried dealing with our problems and stop the fighting but 2 days later we were back at it. I don't know what to do anymore, there is another big problem that I can't get over and that is, that he has slept with 14 people at 16. And everytime we have sex, im scared ill end up as just another number..he wont ever stand up for me, I have to deal withh everything by myself...like when my ex was messing with me and when this guy was grabbing my lady parts, he didn't say a word, I took action and dealt with it. So please help me on what to do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011):
Either he is worth it or he is not. Don't stay in a bad relationship just trying to keep from being another one of this guy's notches. You are already another one of his notches right now. Your notch will always be there regardless of how long you stay involved with him.
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reader, la petite belle +, writes (28 June 2011):
 I am so sorry to hear this! I am going to a somewhat similar situation. perhaps not the details but I know the feeling. I think my problem is that I remember the good tmes I had with him, he was my first.. EVERYTHING!, he showed me so many things and now that he's been acting differently and distant I can't help but to feel restless....I wil tell you what my friends have told me "if YOU are not happy, YOU ARE NOT HAPPY, and only YOU can change that, don't count on him changing because guys don't change, specially since it's easier to stay the being the same"...I have tried to break up with him for reals but he'll break up with me only to ask me to get back with him a few days after.... and yet he goes back to being the jerk he was....I feel like I need to somehow mentally tell myself and pound the idea that we are over... maybe you should try to do the same... don't ask him anything because all he'll do is tell you BS... YOU POUND THE IDEA THAT YOU ARE DONE, you are over, you are not happy... we only live once... why waste all those happy times with someone... (omg! I truly wish I could listen to my own advice, which proves how hard it is)... but recognizing that you need and deserve better AND THAT THERE IS SOMETHING BETTER OUT THERE, that is the first step!... HOpe it helps! ... I completely understand you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): The fact that you feel the need to ask is alarming. Clearly this guy is not dating material and you shouldn't be with him. Leave his sorry ass, and while you are at it, find new friends and places to hang out (where your ex, or anyone who thinks "grabbing lady parts" is okay, wont be)
Goodluck
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