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writes:I have been with my fiance 9 months and its not been easy. We have had a few rows but have always worked through them. However things have taken a turn for the worse. My fiance kissed another woman. It happened when he was on a nite out with friends and i was not there. he telephoned me after it happened and told me through tears what he had done. I am madly in love with this man and had hoped to start planning our wedding soon. However now I am deeply hurt and confused. I have had this happen to me before could it be my fault? Can anyone give me some advise?
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reader, JockoJ  +, writes (10 April 2009):
I'm not sure what to make of him calling and telling you. Maybe he felt guilty and needed to unburden himself? Personally if I screwed up I wouldn't want to cause any pain to my significant other unless there was a good reason.
You guys sound like you might be pretty young. Honestly a kiss isn't that big a deal. You might want to ask him if he's sure that he's sown his wild oats and is ready for marriage though.
I honestly don't see how you could have caused it, unless you're lipless and he wanted to get kissed just once before getting married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): No it's definitely not your fault and the only way it could be, is if you physically held him down and forced their lips together, there is no other way it could be your fault, none!
This is his fault and only his, you are not to blame.
I don't envy your situation, a kiss is a kiss and there's no excuse, the only positive is that he told you straight away and was honest about it.
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