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writes:Do you ever feel like you get yourself into a situation and when you get out off it sometimes people draw you back in??A few months ago one of my friends came over when my parents were on holiday. He was always just a friend, someone i never fancied or saw in that way at all. I was falling asleep so he took that a que to come onto me. At the time it was all i want to have sex with you, i want you to be my first. I refused offcourse. I couldnt do that but over the course of the next week he wouldnt stop calling me. Telling me how much he enjoyed kissing me and wanted to be with me again. He kept begging me to sleep with him and he even said he its not about the sex i would even have a relationship with you if i could, if i had the time and it developed into that. When he said that about the relationship i then started to consider him as a potential suiter. I thought well hes not my usual type and i dont often think about him in that way but hes nice, hes different and hes maybe what I need. So i slept with him. From then on everything got so messed up. I realised I had way more feelings deep down than I ever first realised. I made the big mistake off telling him that. I started doubting his intentions towards me and I got all worried it was just sex. Which pissed him off that I would think that. All at the same time i told him I wanted a relationship. It came to a point where he decided we should just be friends. I found that very hard to accept and it got even more messed up. So much so that i decided to not be his friend anymore. I told him i loved him so it went as far as it could go and this all happened in 2 weeks. I blocked him on facebook after sending him a message explaining why. I said that i didnt hate him but i couldnt have him in my life and one day in the future we may start talking again.Well that was over 2 months ago. Then on friday, geuss who calls me? HIM. He said he felt he needed to give me space but he wants to be friends again. He wanted to make sure I was ok. He wants to see me on friday, be freinds and see what happens. During that phone call I was cool about the whole stuation as if nothing ever happened in the past. Tbh he just caught me in a very good mood. Since then I cant help but worry and I am extremely scared. Some of my friends think the best thing to do is just cancel on our plans for friday and tell him i am busy, wait and see if he makes the effort to contact me again. Play hard to get.But I dont want to start fresh like that. I really dont want to play games.He hurt me yes but part off it was my own fault for getting too attached way too soon and saying i love you after 2 weeks. I was crazy. My friends can't see that though even if i can. So some advice on the situation would go down a treat. why do you guys think he got in touch now??
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): He took advantage of your feelings and whether you're in deep- or may just be a bit naive, he is after ONE thing. My advice, go out with your friends Friday, have a mooch and a browse on what's on offer- and forget about a "relationship" with this hornball! Lol, of course when he sees you getting on without him, he'll pursue you more- NOT because of any "feelings" he has for you, just cos of the chase and the feeling of rejection and a purely egotistical thing of getting you in to bed again.
To be honest someone forcing himself on me when I'm trying to sleep would push the wrong button! What a sleeze... Eugh! NO means no, you should've given him a good kneeing lol!
Take care! X :)
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (10 July 2013):
 This guy sounds desperate. He seems like the type to say anything to a woman just for a lay. Having sex was his first intention and at his age usually its the only intention. Imo he has used you. Im sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): "why do you guys think he got in touch now??"
He wants to have sex. It took very little effort to get you into bed the first time, so he's likely assuming that a little sweet talk and the implied promise of a possible relationship in the future is all that it would take for him to get laid, which probably hasn't happened since he last had you.
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