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writes:I am just wondering if anyone else has seen such a thing. There is this guy at work, who is probably about mid 50's. Maybe more. He is more popular than any of us with all the many girls here, including those between 18 and 25. They all lust after him, preferring him even over young guys their age. Yes, he has great personality, but then when we go out, girls who have never known him, also try to get him to ask them out.Some of us are quite good friends with him and have some fun asking girls about him. The responses are always "i love him and wish he would me" many times in front of him. I have seen on this site and many others where young girls say they would never consider an older man of forty, let alone 50's. And indeed other workers and myself have asked them if they would go out with so and so, and others who are in their 40's and 50's and the response is always "no way" or "ew!" "he is much too old for me". "I don't like older men". Except for this guy(even with these same girls). He is a (girl's) head turner in the street and everywhere else. We follow him just to look. It's fun, but we are green with jealousy...And it is definitely sexual attraction. Interested to hear if anyone has seen such a phenomenon. Also, maybe I could get tips how to be like that, lol..
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reader, Brwneyezblu2  +, writes (14 July 2013):
 You've never seen a female in her 40's or 50's being a magnet to young guys?!? Really? Now you've seen one... ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2013): Tendersmile, it depends what a guy is looking for and also gives him a bigger choice of the "market".
Women would do anything to stay magnetic in their 40's and 50's. They go overboard trying to stay looking young. Never heard of one being a magnet for hoards of young guys as what the OP is saying about this chick magnet.
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reader, tendersmile  +, writes (11 July 2013):
 I think its no use being a chick magnet, unless you find a real love in your life
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 July 2013):
 of course... as a young woman in my 20s and now as a woman in my 50s...
I see "chick magnets" of all ages and all sizes and all kinds.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (11 July 2013):
 More than I can count :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): Yes, lots of times. It's just about animal magnetism some guys have it some don't but the chances of having it increase when you're spoken for strangely enough.
I'm in a similar situation to this guy in a sense but for me it's a bit uncomfortable because I'm a teacher. I teach 12-18 year olds and am a bit too popular for my liking. That said even the older, more haggard teachers get their fair share of female attention.
The reasons are similar even though they're different. I'm a confident, outspoken, friendly, approachable yet take no prisoners if I'm crossed kind of teacher and that makes me hot to a lot of the girls I teach to the point where the other staff members have a jokey nickname for me related to it and the topic of pupils gushing over me to other teachers is a frequent one. They're very overt about it.
For me it's just my position, I'm in charge of that room, I'm fun, I'm easy going but very dominant. But they all know I'm spoken for, I don't flirt in any way with pupils, although I do joke around with them when not class and they know (at least most do) that they don't stand a chance in hell and that makes me even hotter. So close they can almost touch me but still so far that it'll never happen.
OP you'll never be more attractive to women than when you're actually already taken. That "not on the prowl" thing is very hot to them. How you can be more like him is by not giving a shit about women in any way sexually or romantically, the guy in the room who is not openly ogling women or checking them out is the guy who seems to have it already made and that's an interesting thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): I wonder if there is ever a female guy magnet in her 50ls? Not just one young guy having a fetish for an older woman. I mean she attracts many young guys as do young girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): OP here. Hi intrigue 3000. I would say that all love starts with infatuation. Real love can only come later. BTW this guy has never taken advantage sexually-not at work or anything that I know of. Sometimes when a really gorgeous young thing tries to get him, I've asked him how he can resist? To which he responds that although the temptation is very strong, affairs at work or with people he knows can be very damaging(I know one girl he told that to). Although he says he gets an ego boost from the attention(who wouldn't!). It also seems that because he never goes further than flirting, this intrigues the girls even more.
In addition, he is a generally likeable person. Guys really like him(not sexually of course, excluding a few gays, lol).
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (10 July 2013):
 When I was 25, I was head over heels in lust with a man who was 52. Why? Because he was handsome, kept himself in good physical shape, was experienced in the bedroom and knew how to turn a woman on, and he was confident. Nothing beats confidence. The down side was that he was a playa, a commitment phobe and hurt a lot of women.
I later found out that it was all just an act for him disguise his loser like qualities (still living at home at that age, a gambling addict and unpaid child support for kids he had with different women).
He is now just a minor, pleasant memory for me, nothing more. These women are all infatuated with this guy, but they are not in love.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that things are not always what they seem.
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