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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: My boyfriend had seen two other girls while we were together, i lost trust in him, and i noticed he started calling me less, and i always made all the plans, so we were on and off. just recently a new girl that i knew showed up and i found out they were dancing all nite at some club with his friends, they wrote on each other facebook walls... i got so furious that he was doing this to me again that without thinking i called that girl which i met before... and at the end i found out that there was nothing going on.. and he def blamed it all on me, his friend girls made me look like im crazy and probably talked a lot of garbage about me since i talked to them too... I was just sooo fed up for three years all i did was shed tears because now that i open my eyes he was never there for me. He made it seem that i broke his heart and for not telling him in the past that i didnt trust him anymore, which i do admit i should have done. He basically made me look like the liar and crazy one, saying i dont value myself and that i am not interesting, I feel horrible and so low... Was it really horrible of me to have called the other girl?.. its sucks when u lose trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): I think you have been treated very badly in this relationship.
He has never been there for you, as you said. And expected not to have to work for yout trust back after he cheated on you... TWICE.
Of coarse you were going to loose trust when he cheated on you. He's just making up excuses and is refusing to own up to his own evil doings, by saying that you never told him you lost trust.
It sounds like he's taking you for granted and honestly doesn't care about you. If he did, I honestly think that he would care about what people thought about you and would protect you from the rumours, by standing up for you against them, not making them up and speading them himself.
I doubt the girl appreciated it much, but he should have expected you to feel threatened after what he'd done.
Stop being so hard on yourself... I don't think you did anything wrong, or over reacted that much considering what you've been through.
You are obviously unhappy because you say you cry... So think about yourself...
I think you know what's best for you.
Good luck.
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reader, a spades a spade  +, writes (20 August 2009):
its sounds like you already know what you should do.
he's not good for you and at the end of the day, you have to look after yourself. he certainly doesnt seem like he's going to and if you don't trust him then there's no point.
its so hard to build trust back up, and every single little knowck can put you right back to square 1.
you need to start over, with someone who's worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): well why dont you value yourself now and get rid of this loser!
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