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writes: eugh god just everything is getting to me atm:1) a member of my familly that im really close to is dying2) ive turned 18 now so my dad's stopped making his CSA payments which means that moneys really tight atm as our annual incomes only about £9000 anyway, plus all of our bills have just been put up for some reason.3) ive got my A2 college exams coming up in a matter of weeks and i need 3 A's to get into my university. im so tired atm from studying and ive not been able to spend much time with my friends because of it so im feeling kinda alone.4) it was about this time last year that the exam pressure sent me back into the bullima that i thort i was over, and now with all this pressure im scared il get out of control again.5) the guy that iv bin in love with for the last two years is persistently treating me like shit. i feel like hes punishing me for caring about him. he knows exactly how to make me cry and everyday he gets a little crueller, but i cant leave him. trust me, ive tried.i dunno, everythings kinda piling up atm and is just making me feel so tired. sadly tho its also worsened my insomnia, so ive no rest at night and no peace during the day.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (17 May 2006):
 Hi - sorry to hear things are a bit tough at the moment.
Now, in terms of this boyfriend of yours. He doesn't sound particularly nice and I think perhaps you need to talk to him and tell him that you are having a hard time at the moment and you need some help and support.
In relationships there are times when one person goes through a tough time, it may be loss of a relative, loss of a job, health problems, financial problems etc etc etc and in good relationships the other partner helps and supports the other.
I think you deserve that kind of support at the moment and if he's not giving you that, why are you with him? When you say you have tried to leave him but you can't...what is the issue is it that he is abusive or why can't you leave him? It sounds like you have to.
In terms of the stress etc, have you spoken to a counsellor or nurse at your school? Lots of kids get stressed and perhaps they might be able to suggest some ways to ease the stress for you - some breathing excerises to help you sleep or some time management things to give you a bit more time to yourself.
Also, school is very important but you can't study all day every day. Yes you need to work hard but you also need some time off. Make sure you do touch base with your friends because social contact and a few laughs will help your studies a lot and it will leave you feeling more relaxed.
If you continue to work at this pace, you will burn yourself out and you don't want that, you dont want to get sick or overtired etc. Allow yourself to take a break with your friends, an hour or two off here and there is not going to make too much of an impact and it will leave you happier and more content.
Hope this helps a little.
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