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writes: hi i have fallen out with my ex over the fact i am pregnant by him, i feel he is punishing me for something that took two of us.prior to me telling him we were friends but now he completlt ignores me.can he realy change his feelings about me that quick
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (22 May 2006):
 He's probably terrified by the thought of the responsibilities of being a Dad, and he's "blaming" you. Yes, his feelings can change that quickly...
Are you keeping your child? If so, can I please, please, please -- for the sake of the baby -- urge you to get in touch with a legal advisor about your rights and responsibilities? (Most communities provide low-cost or free legal advice.) Your ex may want to take a DNA test to ensure he's the child's father, and if so, he'll be financially responsible until your baby reaches adulthood. Don't dismiss his contribution and try to be "nice about it", because you will probably need all the help you can get.
Your ex may come around to the idea of being a father as time goes on, and if you're keeping the child, he may even want to visit and help care for it, so try to keep in touch.
This situation may have come as a shock to him, and he probably has conveniently "forgotten" that he was 50% responsible for the pregnancy, but that doesn't mean that he mightn't change his mind in months or years to come. Your child should have the right to know her/his father, so please try to forgive your Ex for being a numbskull to you right now.
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