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female
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30-35,
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writes:Its 9 months that i am in relationship with my bf.He s an athlete and when we met he used to play for my countrys club.Everything was going perfectly,we connected on so many levels,were together 24/7,hanged out with each other friends...Than he moved to another country,to play for another club.I just came from visiting him and everything was great.Than all of a sudden he ignored my text and went mia for 3 days,calling afterwards,saying how he was sick and couldnt get out of the bed.I didint find that as an excuse,and i didnt want to argue while he is still sick so i told him that we ll do the talk once he s feeling better.Once he did, he texted me in such a great mood,how he s feeling better,how he can wait to talk,and i was still mad so i just replied few h later asking when will we do the talk.He didnt reply so i sent him a text saying how its so disrespectful that he s ignoring and asking him if i need to wait another 3 days for his reply.He ignored me again,and didnt respond for 6 days now....I m really confused.I was with him 2 weeks ago and i would ve noticed that something was wrong.He was thoughtful as always,loving,surprising me,taking care of me...He s the one making future plans,encouraging me to stay in distance relationship,saying how we ll make it work,how he ll come to me wherever i am.We had similar situation a while ago,while he was visiting his family.I was not happy cause we werent in contact as much as i wanted.I am not one of those girls that call every 5min,but i wanna now how my bf is and how he spends his day.So back than,i confronted him,saying that i ll break up if things dont change and he disappeared for 2 days.Than he appeared,saying how he didnt know what to say and somehow we made up and fixed it.I love him so much and i dont understand whats happening with him.I m not such a needy person,but in my opinion if u want a distance relationship to work u must have that connection. If guys starts ignoring,its mostly showing that they dont want it anymore,but than its contradictory to how he behaved these 9 months and just recently.He also has problems in his club,and an injury,but i made it very clear and showed that i am always there for him.I dont know how to react anymore,i dont wanna find excuses for him,but i just love this guy so much...any advice?p.s.i didnt text him or call or anything since he didnt reply on my text,6 days ago :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2014): Maybe your relationship for him was not all roses. Being with someone all the time (as you say 24/7) is not healthy. You have to have a life on your own.However, him ignoring you is not nice, but sometimes people don't know how to break up, especially if the other person is, as I said, on the needy side. So they instinctively say things this other person wants to hear and patch things up.Not wanting to be the bad guy they just disappear, hoping the message will be understood. Maybe he accepted your way of life for the first few months and than realized that it was a bit too much?Maybe now when he moved away he got some space he needed?But, it's you who's important. If you absolutely need to have someone to share the kind of life you mentioned, maybe you should look elsewhere.
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