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writes:This has been happening ever since grade 2 and I'm sick of it. Every time i like a guy he ends up liking another girl or my best friend. Only once has a guy liked me. and this time the guy i liked ended up being in LOVE with my bestbest friend he had even planned "dates" that he would have with her. My friend is obviously very pretty but i think im pretty too but sometimes i just feel plain ugly.Why don't guys like me?? I;m tired of being looked over and my best friend being looked at!!
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reader, Aura Answers You!  +, writes (14 January 2011):
You are young my dear, look good and you'll feel nice so the one for you won't walk on bye because they can't see you. Suck it up let them like your mates even if it's your best friend. You like ice cream I bet but may fancy chocolate instead...
I'm hard on you because you are young and have so much to think about than those guys .... It just your ego that's all. The guy I like used to dance with me and i thought he liked me but it turns out he dance with me to get to know my mate first... I'd be like ouch! but you laugh and go about your business, you don't have control over what you can't change. So enjoy having a nice time and relax a little and get some chocolate.....
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 When I was your age I didn't exactly have tons of guys all over me either, and that wasn't because someone else "stole" then away. Some girls get a lot of attention yes, but regularly thats not how it goes. If you had a guy that genuinely cared about YOU at your age, then I'd say that's fairly normal, not too little, not too much. At 18 I didn't really have any guy that was genuinely interested in me if it wasn't for sex.
Anyway, I get how you feel as I used to hang out with a girl when I was 14-17 or so who was an attention whore at that age. She got all the attention. The simple solution was to not introduce her to my new friends or prospective boyfriends. But what I later found out was that the guys who genuinely cared about ME, wouldn't even look twice at any friend of mine, now matter how hot or sexy they are. You just think they steal your guys because you see it happening right before your eyes. But the reality is that you wouldn't be getting any more guys to care genuinely about you if you stopped hanging with those friends, or stopped introducing them to each other.
Those guys who fall for your friends see... they were never really yours to begin with. Thats how I chose to view it. Now I am happy to introduce guys to my lovely girlfriends as a check. If they stop paying attention to me they are welcome to leave. I'd like a guy who cares about me, and not my friends, thank you very much. I'd like a guy I don't have to baby sit out of fear that he'll come across someone "prettier".
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Am sure you are not ugly and dont ever believe that you are. I guess you are just looking in the wrong places or else these guys are just not for you. Some day a guy will come along that likes you and none of you friends. You just need to wait for the right guy.
The trick to being attractive to guys is not just your looks but your personality as well, you need to be confident in yourself before a guy will notice you, if you feel ugly then that will come through in your personality. Pamper yourself do things that gives you confidence and always hold your head up high and show the world that you are beautiful.
Goodluck.
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