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writes:Ok guys, please be honest! Does the size of girl's "pearl in her flower" matter to you? I didn’t think mine was big till my boyfriend said, “wow your "pearl" gets so big when you’re turned on.” He makes jokes about it. Now I’m self conscious about it..I get all nervous when he goes down on me, like I can’t relax, all I’m thinking about is "omg what is he thinking ..is he going ewww in his head?!” Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I like all size clits although my preference is the bigger clit. They're juicy and the woman has multiple orgasms moreso then ones with smaller clits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): NO.It does NOT matter whatsoever.Mature,educated indidviduals do not judge,berate or even joke about people's body parts.BTW,your lady bits are probably beautiful don't worry about em.If he doesn't think so belive me there are other guys out there who WILL-trust me hon.
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reader, buddie49 +, writes (31 January 2011):
i would think that was awesome. i would not worry if i was you. i would love it. i have been with woman who had big one and little ones. they all work the same. as long as he is pleaseing you then i would not worry to much.
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 I had one woman whose pearl was so big it looked like a smallish penis. it was a bit of a worry. especially as she used to squirt. anyway unless it's getting to that sort of size there's nothing to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I've had sex with lots of women and notice that the larger the clit the hotter the sex those women are freaky as hell they go wild n crazy. Big clit for me
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Chigirl has it exactly right.
There are guys out there who never find it in the first place, and so go through life feeling like inadequate lovers. If yours is easy to find, all the better for both of you. Now make sure he knows what to do with it!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 What is this pearl? If you mean the clitoris then.. no guys don't care about that. If the guy gets to see you naked I can assure you, whatever it is you think you have of imperfections will NOT be on his brain. This is what will be on his brain: Dear Lord, she's naked, she allows me this close, I can't believe how freaking lucky I am, this is amazing, this is unbelievable, can I please her, am I doing this right, if I screw up will she ever allow me this close again????!!!!
The size of whatever ... most likely not even a concern at all. It was a blunt observation. So it gets larger when you are aroused. At least he's noticed when you are aroused, and how to get you there, and he's probably bursting with pride over knowing this very thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): pish posh no. don't you worry. if its big, thats good, if its small, thats good. it really doesn't matter, shame it doesn't apply to men. ^. ^
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reader, BeSimplyTrue +, writes (31 January 2011):
 My guess is your boyfriend was being thoughtless but is not grossed out. Both women and men are very sensitive about their private parts and worry about being normal. I think he didn't consider this when he commented on it and his jokes are affectionate, not indicative of disgust. He may have even been pleased with himself for turning you on nad clearly affecting your anatomy like that. Those are just my guesses though. You need to find out what's really going on, for your own peace of mind. You've already been worrying about this so much.
I think you need to be brave and ask him if he meant anything by it. Either that or, if you don't want to pose the question like that, tell him that what he said really bothers you, and explain how you can't relax and enjoy the pleasure he's trying to give you. When a man cares about a woman he really wants to give you pleasure and he should care about your feelings being so hurt that he can't pleasure you.
Also, as another way to think about a girl's "pearl in her flower" (I LOVE that phrase by the way! I've never heard it before) being big is this: hey that's AWESOME, you can find it more easily! and you probably get more pleasure out of it! Honestly, I'm pretty envious of you!
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