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writes:Hi everyone. I'm in my first year at university and am wondering if the guy that I like likes me.We are both studying music but he is older so I usually only see him in one class plus at our concerts twice weekly. One of my good friends sees him a lot in their instrument class.We have often had those little "awkward" moments such as when I was talking to him and someone else wanted to talk to me and asked him "are you done with her?". He said "Yea..." and all of a sudden there was this little awkward but not tension in the air.I often catch him looking at me but he's one of those people that notices everything and so he often looks at people. He also looked at me after he played in a concert and smiled at me when I smiled after seeing he looked at me.I talk to him quite a lot when I see him and he was quite close in my personal space the other day and for a practice test we had to do he came over to me.Sometimes he initiates contact but it is usually me, although sometimes I get shy and ignore him accidentally.He was talking to my friend the other day and she told me that I came up in conversation because she was going to see me and he started talking about me. He said that I was "nice" and was in his class. So she was talking me up heaps and she tries to drop my name into conversation.I think he must know by now that I like him, a few of my friends know and a couple of the other musicians. We have really good conversations and I quite like him, but I know neither of us want to rush into any relationships due to how busy we are and the fact that we have our next few years planned out (we both want to travel to around the same area) and so neither of us are making obvious moves.So I'm trying to work out whether he just likes me as a friend or whether it could be something more. Either way, I'm taking things slowly. But I just want to know so I can work out what to do from here. What do you people think?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (25 June 2011):
 hi,
He's a little older than you. Have you confirmed that he's not already in a relationship. A long time ago I recall meeting a cute guy BUT discovered he was separated from his wife, but not divorced. So I declined to go out with him. Guess what the same guy still purports to be a 'bachelor' looking for 'love' and he's still separated and not divorced.
But as long as he is unattached then ask him to join you for a coffee in a place that is not within the University (so less likely to be interrupted).
Find out more about him, face to face.
This is just meeting for coffee. Nothing more.
Even if you both do have great plans for the future does not mean you need to deny yourself love.
He sounds interested. And you are definitely interested. Relax and enjoy his company.
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