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writes:My girl friend is very hard to understand there are times when i feel like she wants me then other times she acts like she doesn't want me around; during these times i'll try to call her and she doesn't answer me so then i stop trying.After about 2 or 3 days she'll call me but sometimes i'm so angry at her for leaving me guessing i may not answer right away then she'll leave me all kind of messages like she is so hurt that i ignored her. This is not the case at all i'm dying inside when i try to contact her and can't get her but if she doesn't answer then i fell like she wants me to go away so then i back up.When i back up she gets into stocker mode as far as trying to get my attention. Why? Does she want me or not? I call her no answer if she calls me and gets no answer then she's all bent out of shape i'm confused. I want her bad... Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 I think Serinity is just right. You're not handling this problem in the correct manner. You need to talk to her.
I will only add that you also need to make up your mind whether you will continue to put up with her behavior. After you talk to her, she might a) continue to behave this way, or b) change. You need to think what you will do if she chooses a).
As to whether she wants you or not, I wouldn't be sure she doesn't. But I do know that a woman in love doesn't generally act like this. Or, maybe, just maybe, she's a little spoiled and thinks that she is always first, so she can brush you off or ask you to be with her right away, at her discretion.
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reader, didapoo +, writes (14 February 2008):
 So call her. It might be that she doesnt always hear the phone. Is it a cell phone? Could be that she is out of service in some parts of her house? I used to have that problem, now we have a new tower, but that happened alot, missing calls because if I was in certain rooms, I had no cell service. If she gets upset that you dont call, I think it means that she likes you and wants to talk to you.
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reader, Serinity +, writes (14 February 2008):
 I think you just need to come out and tell her exactly that. Communication goes a long way. She lets you know how she feels when you don't answer the phone right? Tell her how it makes you feel when she does the same to you. And if you want her that bad, then when she does call maybe you shouldn't ignore the calls, mad or not. Let her know that you really want to be with her but she's destroying little pieces of you each time she pushes you away. So, maybe try a little more communication. Good luck sweetie.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (14 February 2008):
 She's a game player...pure and simple!
Kick her to the curb. You don't need that!
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