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writes:Well me and my girlfriend has been together for a while, i asked her to marry me 3 months ago she said yes we was very happy together or at least i thought, about 3 weeks ago she finished the relationship with me and we only just got back together and i don't feel the exact same love or trust or anything as i used to, she never cheated or at least that i know of, i still have feelings for her yeah, but its not the exact same no more, maybe it takes time for my heart to recover and stuff i don't know.The reasons she left me was a bit ridiculous and stupid. Her reason was I've been nasty to her in the last week (4 weeks ago) well I'm thinking how have i been nasty when i haven't even seen her for 8 days in that so called "week i was nasty". The reason i didn't see her for 8 days was because she kept saying I'm going out to see friends I'm doing this I'm doing that.Now she's being nice and i don't know why because she broke up with me and she still loves me so she says, well i think she's after something, i don't know if she is after the engagement ring, or i don't know if she's playing with me head or i don't know if she wants me to get her email account back for her coz someone hacked it, does she really want me love me and still does care about me or is she after something?
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reader, smile(:  +, writes (25 August 2010):
You can't get engaged to her until she gives you a straight answer as to why she broke up with you.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (25 August 2010):
 She's over excited about the prospect of living together. Suddenly she felt that you and her would never be apart, meaning literally. It hurts her to see that you have a private life to yourself. What's nasty is that she doesn't feel like the omnipotent source in life. She's not your everything because you spend time with your friends. She needs to understand that it's not healthy to spend every waking minute with each other. A person pressured to stick with a love one would feel smothered and resentful. Eventually they would bore themselves to death. Talk to her about how much time you like to spend together, and what would you enjoy doing with her. You both need to have realistic expectations of each other's needs and wants. Whenever she's having strong feelings, rather than running away, try to understand why she's feeling that way. Tell her to cooperate by talking nicely, without assuming things, accusing, and blaming.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Perhaps all she needed was some time to think. That could be why she's being nice now because something's changed. A wedding is a big thing so definitely wait a little longer and see if this is the case.
I hope that helps.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 August 2010):
Only time and communication will tell. One thing is for sure, and that it she in particular is not ready for marriage. I do half wonder if she knew she wasn't ready, so pulled away to get it broken off only to come back. So whatever happens, keep that wedding well and truly off for the moment. I don't know what happened. If you think you can fix this, then go for it. But keep the marriage off the cards for a few years and really make sure this girl is worth it. Her lack of commitment and reasons for breaking suggest she may not be. But only time and talking will tell.
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