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*tephekm
writes:I have dated this guy last week and he said he wanted to see me again.He works away alot and has sales meetings etc. I am finding it hard though when there is no communication and I am doing all the texting. he has now gone away to new york for a week, but still logged on to dating site and no communication to me.he said he wanted to have a coffee with me when he got back, unless I had a better offer.Is he interested or not ??
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 He's not doing much, if any, communicating with you...BUT he still has time to stay logged onto his dating profile and browse.
What does that say about him??? That he's not really interested and still looking.
Although, it's perfectly acceptable to keep browsing, you two aren't an item. BUT, if he was interested in you, he'd spend a little more time talking to you than on his dating profile.
Yeah, he's busy with sales meetings, traveling for business, but they get down time and it takes a matter of seconds to text back.
You need to keep your options open as well. Out of curiosity, I'd wait and see if he holds up his end of the coffee date when he gets back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): Guys move very fast when they want a certain woman. We dont waste time or want anyone to move in before us. It doesnt seem like youre the top of his list. He is leaving his options open.
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reader, Latti +, writes (2 February 2012):
I am a firm believer that " You Make Time For Who You Want To Make Time For"....when a person is "Into" you....they will find a moment to call or text you. I am a very busy person & I often leave my cell in the office or in my purse, but at some point before the end of the day....I "Make" time to call that special someone!
The dating scene can be quite nerve recking & evasive, but the key is to Stay Confident in you! Do not give anyone more attention than they give you. If you've called him 3 times...& he's only called you once. Back off & let him catch up. Men smell "Needy - Desperate" women. You only want him to smell...the sweet aroma of your perfume.
A good book suggestion: "Why Men Love Bitches". By Sherry Argrov. The title is a bit racey....but trust me...it will set you free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): He would have contacted you regularly if he was that interested.He sounds like he can take or leave you.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Its way too early to be fretting over contact with this one guy. You only had one date and it's possible he is busy, however if he is still checking in to the dating site he's probably still looking.
I would do as he is doing, check out others on the site and go on a few dates. If he contacts you when he gets back from New York then you can decide whether to have coffee with him or not, but right now, he isn't chasing you, so back off a little or you might seem like you are a little desperate and clingy.
Don't sweat it, even though you felt you made a connection, because he just might not feel the same way.
Back right off, don't contact him and date others...he will get in touch if he's interested.
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