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writes:I don't know where to start, well i have been insecure all my life.low self esteem, feel like not loved. by the way i'm 23 and find it difficult to mantain a relationship. i dated a guy for a year it only lasted that long coz we were living in different town, but as soon he moved to my town things didn't work out. i learn that he is seeing other women. we broke up.currently i'm going out with the great guy, but i,m still insecure,shy little girl who is scared to get hurt. will i ever enjoy the benefit of dating or is it too late for me now? i always envy my friend when they talk about their partner while i don't have anything to comment. is my past relationship have anything to do with my insecurities?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): You are only 23, you have the rest of your life to get more secure and be more confident, so stop whittling!!! I didnt meet my dream man until later on in life. I have had a very tough life to say the least, not saying that yours should be the same, but you are quite young. Just enjoy what you have and your confidence will build with time and age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): It is definitely not too late for you. My wife had a bad first marriage of 7 years and low confidence and self esteem after it, but she did not let it stop her from looking for the right person. She was 30 when it ended. She was lucky that she found someone nice to her right after she left her husband. He had other problems, so she ended that relationship. She did not have such great luck with other men who she found, until we found each other. Finally, at the ages of 34, we were both happy and we have been for the vast majority of our 28 years together. Her first husband was her first real relationship. You are 7 years younger than my wife was when her first relationship failed, so you are not definitely too old to meet a good man (or men) and have the chance to have good dating experiences. Don't be afraid of dating someone who doesn't care about you. It may happen, as it did for my wife after her divorce, but she didn't let it stop her from looking for someone she could love and be with. She also was afraid at times that she would never find someone that could love her. Have fun dating and know that someone will be that right person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): Hi Hunny,
When you are by yourself do you enjoy your own company?
I ask this as I have had alot of crap in life and found myself feeling at times very insecure and lacking in confidence...So I had to do a lot of thinking as to how to overcome this when and if it continued...I looked at myself and thought we are all alone really, even if we have many people around and we have to like the person within ourselves to accept others, If your not happy with you as a person then you will constantly think something is wrong or going to happen. I found a site on the net for women with low self asteem I simply typed in just that and it was very helpfull hunny...
I always make sure my make up is on my hair is done and Ive got the clothes on that make me feel good, I dont want my past to affect my future, Im glad ive learned from it but I dont want to think every man out there are the same as they are not love, Has your childhood anything to do with this as I was adopted and when I found out I kinda flipped a little at 16 this is were I feel my feelings of rejection came from...build your confidence up little by little doing things for you making you feel special as you are you no...Take a look at the site ive mentioned and if you need see a counsellor and talk about everything that worrys you and they can help with so many positive suggestions to get you back feeling great about you, I have found that music and dancing help so I pop on some mad music that I love and dance with the hoover it makes a great pole.. You are worth so much sweetheart if you need a chat im here just message me ok you take care hope this helped a little LOTS OF LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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