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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:i am a single mum of one. i have been friends with this guy for three years i am hopelessly in love with him but i have no idea how he feels about me. i have asked him several times but he just changes the topic, currently he told my best friend that he loves me too but is scared that i will go back to my son's father eventually, i know for a fact that i never will but he doesnt believe that. i have tried everything i know to convince him to be with me but it hasn't worked. please help how to convince him or should i just move on with my life?
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (15 November 2007):
 It is understandable that he is afraid you might just go back to the father, but if you've really tried everything to be with him, and he still doesn't, then maybe that is your answer.
Also, the fact that he is evasive when you ask him about his feelings for you may mean that he either doesn't know how he feels about you, or that he might not want to tell you the truth.
The old cliche - "if you love something, set it free", holds some weight on your situation. If this guy really loves you, he won't LET you move on. You will have to test the waters.
BUT - don't decide to move on JUST to see if he will WANT you then. Decide to move on for your own emotional wellbeing. You deserve to be with somebody who won't be afraid to take a chance on you. This guy has to realize that there are NO guarantees in life, but sometimes you have to take the risk in any case.
Good luck - hope it works out.
Love & Light
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