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*tephy2585
writes:I'm even more confused. My best friend is a girl and you see I'm also a girl and I am seriously developing strong feelings for her. I can't stop thinking about her. She is in the military and she is about to deploy. Should I tell her how I feel? Does this make me a lesboam? I am so confused...
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reader, babybaby +, writes (20 May 2011):
It could be just this one girl because she is your best friend and your so close, if you start noticing your like that with a lot of girls than Id consider that you are or bisexual. But you could just be feeling really strong to her with her leaving and you being close friends.Get out there and date men and women and find what you like most, you may find it was just a her thing and not other women and you may find its other women, or you may find you like both sexes.
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reader, charitysend +, writes (20 May 2011):
Having strong feelings for another girl doesn't mean you're a lesbian. I am a girl, and I too have had very strong feelings of love for certain of my friends. But I never wanted to kiss them or get naked with them, so even though I was practically in love with them, I never considered myself a lesbian.
"Lesbian" is just a label; I honestly wouldn't worry about it. However, I would advise against telling her how you feel. She might label you, or be uncomfortable with you. It's okay to tell her how much you'll miss her.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 You're only a lesbian if you have never been attracted, or in love, with a man, and do not find men sexy, but only women.
Does it really matter if you are a lesbian or not? If you have strong feelings for her, does that mean you want to be in a relationship with her? Do you love her? Do you want to have sex with her?
If the thought of having sex with her turns you off then you're not in love with her, nor have you developed romantic feelings for her. If you can not picture yourself kissing her, then you're not into her either. Determine how you feel, and think about what it is you want. Do you want a relationship with her or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): What do you think of when you think of her? Her soft skin? Or how fun you always have together when talking? Consider the thoughts you have about her, if she was a man would you have classified them as attraction or love or good friendship.Or more easily: Do you want to kiss her? If the answer is yes you might be lesbian/bisexual.
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