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writes:My boyfriend and I are been together for 3 years..we have an age gap..he's only 18 and im 20. Im his first gf and first sex..even though we have an age gap..we are still on the same college level..here's my problem..with the age of 18..he still likes to play..games and other stuffs..and for me as a girlfriend..i tried to like all the things that he's been playing..and honestly..i enjoy playing games with him..but sometimes..i get tired..because..our relationship is not progressing..we're still on the same level..i mean we're not growing..especially him..im so jelous when im seeing another couple..they are so sweet..and he's not like that to me..when we are together..we ate a lot..and play in the arcade..when we are dating..or talking..i just can't feel him..we dont talk to much about the feelings..about us..and yes im an emotional person..i really love romantic surprises..and he didnt do that to me..ever..:( even though i told him so..and to me as a 21 years old girl..im thinking about being stable with him..like marriage and stuffs..yeah.we talked about that already..he just keep saying plans and saying yes..but i dont know if he is serious...because of his age..i opened this up to him..but he just felt sorry...and keep telling me that he loves me so much..and especially..being together in the bedroom..for just a minute..we will have sex..sometimes up to 3 rounds..and he always wanted it..and im doubting now..if he really loves me... Reply to this Question
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reader, doublejack  +, writes (11 February 2011):
I think this is a classic example of why younger guys don't generally work well with older women. Women mature faster, making that transition from playful teen to full-fledged adulthood at a younger age. The guy who is the subject of this question is realistically 5 to 7 years away from turning into the "man" he'll ultimately be. He's having fun, not burdened with tons of responsibilities.OP, I encourage you to talk to your guy about your concerns, but do it in a delicate way. You should also accept that he is younger and maybe just isn't ready to move to the "next level" in his life. But I'll echo the sentiment that waiting around hoping he'll change is not a good idea. If you're genuinely unhappy then it may be time to move on. People being at different stages in life is one of the primary reasons things don't work out between them.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (10 February 2011):
 He's lazy, but he's still developing into who he is. Discovering his identity and what not. I would be willing to bet he loves you by his definition of love. Maybe not by your definition. The thing you need to think about is if you're waiting around for him to change. If you are, that's not good. You should love him as he is, not how you might want him to be.
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