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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we've gone through some tough and good times. Like at first he was the one that was all over me, telling me how much he liked me and so on. And I was always the 'mean' one if you will. But then he kinda messed up bad and we broke up for 2 months but I decided to forgive him and we got back together. Everything was good w.e, but lately for almost a month now he's been acting really weird. He dosn't talk to me the way he used to, he doesn't say the same things and whenever I'm speaking to him on the phone he isn't even paying attention. It's like if he just doesnt care about this any more, and also it seems like if he sees me talks to me or not he doesnt care. Oh and after we got back I've been really jealous and a little insecure cause I trusted him and he blew it. Like could it be that, is he getting annoyed? I don't know what can this means, or is it me being over reactive ? Help please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Thanks guys (:But yeah I've talked to him though we just end up in fights but I'm trying not to stress it. If it dosnt work then well life goes on, though I do love him very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): you have to realise that all relationships cant be perfect.. ok so he has been acting different with you, best thing to do is talk to him about it and ask him whats wrong, it could be something else that has made him this way, it might not be you.
ask his close friends if theres anything up with him as they probley know him better than anyone.
but if i was you i would sit him down and try and sort all this out. ask him "you either wanna be with me or dont" tell him to be truthful! just try and work this out
good luck
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reader, BlueBag  +, writes (18 November 2009):
 When you both got back together, he should have expected that you would be insecure and try everything he could to show you that you can trust him again. If he did the dirty but still wanted to be with you then he shoudn't have expected any less.
However, the way he is acting now is completely the opposite of what he should be doing. Its telling me that he really doesn't care whether you are together or not.
Sit down and talk to him, ask him what's going through his mind. Why is he acting so distant? If he doesn't give you a reasonable answer then I wouldn't bother trying to work things out. You have given him a second chance and he's wasted it.
There are plenty of men out there who would never cheat on someone they love. Go find a decent man! :)
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reader, Jazzy924 +, writes (18 November 2009):
I was in the same situation you was in except the part about how he messed up. but anyways the not talking as much as use to and things in that nature happened and so i thought he was getting tired of me and wanted to move on but didnt kno how to say it with out hurting my feeling. thats what i thought until one day his cuzin mom was talkin to me and she told me how he was talking to her and she told me all kinds of stuf such as how much ghe love me and im the realist and only girl he ever have and now want and that made me see that he really did love me and he was just going through some things and didnt kno how to handle it so we talked it out and it was good. but i dont kno the situation as good as you do so maybe if you alk to him and yall can talk it out that wut helped me or talk to someone that he is real close to and see if he is feeling that way cuz he might be goingg through something and just dont kno how to handle it. well i hope thus help.
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