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Does "I like you a lot" mean he is bordering on saying "I love you" but he is too scared?

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Question - (16 November 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 16 November 2010)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Just out of curiousity i would like to know if a man that you've been involved with(say a year or more)tells you he "likes you a lot' would you think that there was more to what he was saying than what he was letting on to?

I have had people tell me that guys who make this type of statement are bordering on the line of saying I love you but are to scared to say that so they use the line I like you a lot as an alternative.

What does anybody else think?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010):


I use both of the terms, although I use them independent of one another.

For me, "-I like you a lot" means you are a very dear friend to me, and I do not have a romantic interest in you.

In contrast for me, "I love you" means "You are the one for me on every level. You are perfect, because You are imperfect. I would sacrifice my life to spare yours." ((La la la...*sigh*))

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A female reader, xanthic United States +, writes (16 November 2010):

xanthic agony auntTake it at face value, nothing more. There's no guarantee he's about to say 'I love you', and considering it's been a year and he still hasn't, I don't think he's into this relationship as much as you are. It's understandable if you were only together a few months, but after a year he should be comfortable enough to say it by now. There's no reason for him to be scared at this point. However, 'I like you a lot' brings to mind another saying people like to use; 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you.' You need to speak with him about this, see where the relationship currently stands.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010):

After dating for a year or so and the guy did not utter the those three little words I would walk away.

I am currently seeing someone for 3 months who has said 'I love you a little bit' but then we only see each other twice a week. Do you love him and have you ever told him?

Men have these sayings...'I like you a lot' 'I care about you' I love you a 'little' bit Us women...we say what we mean and mean what we say. Men and their fear of emotion!

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