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writes:I just want some opinion about my situation...I met a guy a week ago about a week and a half ago whilst out with friends. I was talking to some other guy but he seemed more interested in me than i was in him. I kept hinting about this until he got the message.This other guy was sat next to him and he found it quite funny that this other guy took a while to get the message. I jokingly turned to him and asked if he knew the guy but he said no. We got talking for a bit, then he asked me to go and dance with him, which I did. Later, we met my friends again and we walked back to my friends house - this guy walked back with me. At the end of the night, I got his number, and he asked me to ring his phone so I could 'make sure he'd given me the right number.' I didn't doubt that he had, but phoned his number anyway and the phone in his pocket rang. But I made the mistake of not withholding my number... He kissed me and hugged me then said he'd see me 'tomorrow.' I didn't want to rush into anything though...Next day, he sent me a text to say hi and asked if i was okay. I did like the guy, but like i said, didn't want to rush things. We didn't end up meeting the next day though. I textd back an hour later and asked how he was and told him i was okay. I also hinted that i had a good nite with him. He textd back an hour later and asked what i was up to. We exchanged several texts that night. Then he did not reply to one of my messages. He textd me the next day to apologise saying he was 'nackered.' We textd each other again that night amd again he didn't reply after a while, but textd me really late to say he'd talk to me 'tomorrow.'I did not text this msg back and waited to see if he would text me again. He did. We exchanged a couple msgs, then i did not reply to his msg. ;-)Then i textd him the next day whilst i was in college -sent a pic msg that said hi - that was it, i said nothing else.He textd back to ask if i was having a good time at college. My phone was switched off when he sent this, so i didn't get it until four hours later. I textd back, then he textd me a little bit later. I didn't reply again til l8.00 that night and put a flirty animation at the end.We had been exchanging msgs all week. Saturday came and I textd him when i went on my break at work. He textd back and asked what id been doing. All week there was no mention from him about meeting up. I asked if he was still going out that night and he said yes. He did not ask me to join him. I went out with a mate that night and textd him to ask where he was. He said he was at his mates and would let me know when he was out. An hour passed and there was no msg. I textd him agn and he replied straight away. He was out in town. I went to meet him and he introduced me to his mates. They all seemed okay and up for a laugh. My friend went off with her boyfriend after a while, leaving me with this guy and his mates. We all went to a nightclub together and his mates bought my drinks all night. I danced with this guy all night, but several times, he pushed me away and danced by himself. At the end of the night, he waited with me until i got picked up. He said he would meet me 'tomorrow.' I jokingly told him i knew he wouldn't. He promised he would and kissed me goodbye.(We only had a few drinks that night, so we weren't totally drunk btw).I phoned him in the afternoon the next day (yesterday) to find out what he was up to. He said he was waiting to move his car (but he was banned from driving...???) and then he would see if he could meet me later. A few hours later, he said he still hand't moved his car. I told him I was at a friend's house anyway. He textd me later that night to apologise for 'not making time for me' and told me he had now moved his car and went playing golf. I have not yet replied to this text msg as I am wondering if he is messing me around or if I am just trying to rush things. Does it mean he's not interested if it's been a week and we haven't met up properly yet? Does he just want to be friends? I just want to know how I can find out what's going on - if he's messing around, just wants to be friends, is playing hard to get (men don't like being controlled by women, i know), or whatever...??? But I want to find out what's going on without making myself look desperate. I like him, yes, but would like to just be friends if i know that's all he wants?Is it worth pursuing him? What should i text him back? Please help! I don't want to fall into a trap and end up looking stupid so am asking for advice before it's too late and I get myself in a right mess..
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reader, lush123 +, writes (16 April 2006):
lush123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt has now been three weeks since i met the guy. We have been texting each other nearly every day since, but have not yet met up. It has been two weeks since I last saw him. It takes him a long time to reply to my texts. I sometimes worry about whether he is really interested as he is a builder and says that he is unable to meet up with me until he finishes early at work - very rare. He keeps texting apologising for not meeting up yet but am telling him i am not worried as I do not want him to think i am desperate!!!
However, the more i say i am not worried, the more i am thinking he will start to think i am not really that interested.
Is he worth pursuing if it has been three weeks and we have not yet met up just the two of us - he has not asked me to go out on a saturday night with his mates since the last time i went with them but keeps apologising for not meeting up.
Also, he textd me being really sarcastic the other day. I hinted that we had not talked much recently. He replied saying it was 'his fault he had been busy at work'. I left it a day to reply to prevent an argument. I said it was really my fault for not knowing when he finished work. He did not reply for a while so I textd asking if i had done something wrong and told him id rather know if i had than have him not talking to me. His reply was, "Hi, how r u, having fun at work?" (which was where i was when i got this msg. He did not say i had/hadnt done anything wrong. I asked if he was going out that night and he said yes, with mates. He did not ask me to join them. Not that I want him to feel that I have to be there with him all the time since we met from now on or anything - of course I wouldnt want him to stop going out with his mates without me...!!!
I just want to know if this guy is worth pursuing as, apart from constant apologies from him for not meeting up with me, he does not seem that interested in me (sometimes he takes ages to reply and sometimes he txts straight back). Or is he wondering if i am interested in him or not??? Is he unsure so is holding back in case i just want to be friends???
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reader, save the day +, writes (3 April 2006):
 i think that this bloke as been hurt in the past. I think its hard for him at the moment to get close to a girl and trust, maybe he had a bad relationship not long ago. This guy was he on his own at the pub where you met him ,if so he probably drowning his sorrows thinking about the bad relationship he just went through. He sat there and saw you and knew that he liked you but was in two minds to come on to you, he did and doesnt regret i bet.keep txting tell him things about you in a txt so he can get to know you that way (may be fun) tell him your hobbies something like that.give it some more time follow yor incstints youll now sooner or later. good luck update me if any news.
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