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*aura_pops_87
writes:Hello everyone I came on here in hope for some advice and maybe help me understand what's going on. 2 years ago me and my ex broke up. It was a pretty good relationship for a while then it all went bad and we had the worst breakup where we didn't speak for nearly 2 years! I was finally over him so I added him back on msn and at first we were good mates I didn't have feelings for him at all even when we had sex the nite before I went to vegas on vacation! I just put it down to me starting my holiday early! Then I came home he wanted us to be fu_k buddies but I declined said we would be better as friends. So a while later I ask him if he wants to hangout and he declines cause he is scared one of us or him will fall for him me again and cause he's moving far away in a few months he doesn't want anything to happen.I tell myself to be strong since he said this yes I have feelings again but I am not prepared to admit it. Though we walk down the memory lane talking about times we spent together and our favourite memories of each other, he finds me attractive that's for sure but I ask myself is it just sex. I think if he wasn't moving away I would be honest and maybe just tell him how I feel but I am scared its just one sided cause I have come close to blurting it all out. My question is does he still like me, miss me or maybe want me back if he was sticking around. Cheers. X x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): I was in a very similar situation - actually the similarities are striking.
I ddi not end up telling him how i felt.
We did spend a lot of time together before he left.
I was actually careful not to seem like i cared. {I think I to convince myself of it because i was not comfortable caring.}
I suspected he knew , because the feeling was so powerful it must have been obvious.
We talked a bit about the past, he told me that he had never lost feelings for me but i was not sure how to look at that. It was a big deal that he did not say I HAVE FEELINGS FOR . He said I NEVER LOST FEELINGS FOR YOU.
So, i never told him how i felt verbally. I regret it because I think it would have been healthy for ME to be honest with myself and it would have been a good experience just to tell someone that you care about them not because you want something in return.
At the time i was worried it would get in the way of a friendship, now I think it is best to be clear. That if everyone knew what was up then there would be no surprises to worry about.
I suppose it matters what you want. If it is just to be honest because he is special to you then i would say to go fro it.
Well that was just me. I was not looking for a relationship so really i just wanted him to know how i felt. But if you want a relationship then you should talk to him. It is always better to know what happened then to wonder...
Good Luck.
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reader, laura_pops_87 +, writes (31 October 2009):
laura_pops_87 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYour 100% right that's why I haven't told him how I feel. But I can't help the way I feel though and here's me wandering uf its just one sided. I suppose it doesn't matter but I am like wantung to know I geuss.
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