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writes:My husband and I are separated and we were having an indepth e-mail conversation, so I asked Do you Love me?He replied: I always did... even though I had a terrible way of showing it.Does that mean past tense - he doesn't love me now. He says he keeps thinking about me and how happy we were. I am confused as he used the past tense. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): i know that you are anxious to get some answers and may be reading too much into his words. just don't rush things ok. sometimes we women read too much into things and we set outselves up for more heartache and pain.
i really do wish that you and the ex hubby can work things out but please move slowly and it is not his words that matter, it should be his actions.
good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  + ♥, writes (18 October 2009):
Though he was referring to the past, the fact that he did refer to the past shows that he may want to salvage a relationship with you. Why don't you talk face to face?
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (18 October 2009):
 I think your husband was referring to your relationship, which is past tense now that you are separated- not that his 'feelings' are past tense. People don't usually say "always" when they don't love you anymore. I also agree with Basschick in that these conversations should be face to face- you know your husband and his body language. Good luck, sounds like you want to salvage your marriage and I hope it works out for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): Hi
Yeah. I agree. Only don't start developing feelings for him just yet. Keep them in hold until you find out the truth. Okay?
Love :)
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reader, Basschick  + ♥, writes (18 October 2009):
 Just ask him only this time pick up the phone or go see him in person. It's much better to discuss things like this face to face. So much is lost in an e-mail message, you can't hear the tone of his voice, or see his eyes light up, you can't read his body language or understand where he's really coming from.
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