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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I broke up with my bf about a month ago for a week because i thought that i was too young to be in such a commited relationship. after that week or so though we got back together and are now dating long distance. i found out when we got back together that while we were broken up he had been talking to his ex gf and telling her he loved her and wanted to get back together with her. we had a long talk about it, and worked all of that out. he said he was just confused and hurt but really loved me and that they were now just friends. i'm still not totally cool with the whole thing but i've made my peace with it and am trying to be a good sport about their friendship.well, recently i found out that along with talking to his ex, while we were broken up he also had been emailing around 6 or 7 girls on personal adds. he told them they were sexy and that he was stressed and basically needed to find someone to get over me. He asked them all out to drinks, but pretty much none of them responded. However, now i'm worried that maybe he doesn't love me the way he says he does, and that maybe he just doesnt want to be alone. so my question for you all my friends is...is he really in love with me, or could i (and even his ex) just be some girl in a personal ad? meaning like does he just want someone to love and to love him back? I'm so confused and any help would be very appreciated thanks :)
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reader, wiccanrain +, writes (3 November 2009):
 well the only person that can say for certain is him...but guys are different from us females...if they hurt they may do stupid things like try to have as many one night stands to prove that they don't need you, or to try and forget they do for a bit....about the someone to love and be loved back..that's a relationship..everyone (well most) want someone..but it's that they want a certain someone..the things that happened when you guys were broken up carry weight yes but you can't become insecure because of it, love. he wasn't doing it to hurt you. now if he does other things to back up your thought that he may just want that warm body then you can start to worry. but in my opinion you shouldn't let this get you down..there's a good chance he may mean it when he says he cares for you :)hope this helped
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